Post Date December, 02 2023
According to reports, a 38-year-old middle-aged man in northern Vietnam fell in love with a 90-year-old grandmother, with a difference of 52 years between the two, making this "old and young love" experience twists and turns. The age difference of forgetful love has broken through again, and netizens question why they like people with such a large age difference.
Event restoration: "Old and young love" is under public pressure, but the two people do not change their original intention
The 90 year old woman has four ex husbands, and although she is 52 years younger than the male lead, her age cannot stop her enthusiasm. It is reported that the two people had a good feeling for each other 12 years ago and often expressed their love on their own initiative. Therefore, their love story had attracted media attention many years ago, and the local people did not feel anything wrong at first.
However, after media reports of "love between old and young", the woman's children have been under pressure from public opinion and have advised their mother not to continue this relationship. However, the children's exhortations were fruitless, so they had to step back and ask their mother to "be brave to love, but not marry.". Men's children and parents are also not allowed to marry each other.
Recently, an elderly woman has become ill and needs to be taken care of by her children. The family has used this as a reason to restrict the woman's movement and prevent them from meeting, but both men and women still express affection for each other.
Psychological causes: Oedipus and Oedipus are prone to cause "old and young love"
For more and more forgetful love, it is excluded that there are forgetful love caused by mutual affection. However, there are some psychological or social reasons behind most forgetful couples, among which the Oedipus Oedipus complex is the core source of causing forgetful love.
Some girls lack fatherly love when they were young, and this excessive "hunger and thirst" can leave them with deep memories. As a result, they unconsciously seek the feeling of fatherly love from men with larger age differences, hoping to experience fatherly love in them and be carefully cared for by husbands like fathers. On the contrary, some girls admire their fathers from an early age and feel that their fathers are perfect, so they seek husbands according to their father's standards. No matter how old they are, they often continue to love their father to the end, and then choose someone who is many years older than themselves, and even can be their father to fall in love. Boys who fall in love with women who are many years older than themselves often lack maternal love or have a subconscious Oedipus complex in their childhood.
People who have experienced being hurt by love often fall in love with older, protective people due to their lack of security in love.
In addition to psychological reasons, the economy is also a reason why some people choose to marry someone much older than themselves. Because older people generally have more wealth after a period of social accumulation than those who have just graduated from society, these wealth can enable young people to lead a more prosperous and stable life after marriage.
