Post Date December, 03 2023
This article is reproduced with authorization from the author Mr. Qi
Mr. Qi is an idealistic entrepreneur who keeps a golden dog and opens a steamed stuffed bun shop. Just write delicious bedtime stories. The newly released emotional food novel "Jieyou Baozi Shop" is selling well. WeChat official account: two uncles (lianggedashu) Sina Weibo @ Mr. Qige.
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01.
What do men think besides sex?
I don't know what other people think, but what I understand is that behind sex is a family.
So, the wife should do the most when she is pregnant: take care of her family.
If you don't understand the meaning of the word "home care", it is recommended that you don't let your wife get pregnant first.
What can I do in my wife's 10 months of pregnancy?
I asked myself this question.
Then I answered this question with dozens of questions.
Is milk powder money enough? A can of milk powder costs hundreds of yuan, which expires one month after opening.
Have you earned enough money for diapers? Generally, the price of a baby's pee starts at 1 yuan, and generally starts at 5 pees a day.
Have you earned enough money for supplementary food? Rice noodles is a bag of dozens of yuan, and fortified iron is more expensive. The auxiliary food mixer can be a little more than three or five hundred yuan. The prepared meat paste is more than a hundred yuan a small bottle, and you dare not give it to children even if it costs more than ten yuan a bottle.
How to prepare the meal for pregnant women during the wife's pregnancy? How to deal with severe pregnancy and vomiting? How to supplement nutrition? What about iron deficiency? What about calcium deficiency? What should I do if I gain too much weight? What should I do if my blood sugar is too high? How often do you have a pregnancy test? Natural or caesarean section? What if I drive ten fingers slowly?
What about prenatal depression? What about postpartum depression? What if the old people in the family help the children, and the two generations' childcare concepts conflict?
Did you buy a stroller when the baby was born? Have you bought a crib? Have you bought the toy? Did you buy red and yellow balls to promote vision development? Have you bought a black and white card? What to do with slow growth of big movements? Do you know how to milk? What should I do if I block milk? Can you cook a baby meal? How does baby eczema do? What should I do if my ass is red? When to add complementary food? What should I do if I am allergic to supplementary food? What about diarrhea? What if I catch a cold? Do you know why the baby cried?
The most important thing is, will you sleep well?
Are all these things to be learned after the birth of the child? Are you late?
I think it is not difficult to figure out these problems in 10 months, as long as you take care to understand them.
The biggest benefit of learning all this is that it can easily solve many conflicts in the family, avoid some unnecessary quarrels, and at least deal with many problems in an emergency, because this is some of the responsibilities that a man should share. Learning these can make his wife feel relieved.
Because when the wife meets these tough problems, she can rely on you first.
In fact, sometimes, it is a great concern to understand this and let pregnant women sleep soundly.
If you understand this, you will particularly understand the hardships of a woman's pregnancy. It is a great concern to make a hot meal for her.
Knowing this, you will cherish the difficulty of building a home. Your baby is like you but not you, but his life is really embedded in your life.
If you understand this, you will find that no matter how much your wife has a strange temper during pregnancy or childbirth, you can tolerate it. When my daughter-in-law was pregnant, I wrote an article titled "My pregnant daughter-in-law suddenly cried again in Shuangying Company!". She just cried for no reason. I had to keep coaxing her.
Later, when the baby was born, sometimes all kinds of crying, I told my wife one thing, that is, when the baby is not crying, you are not irritable, and it is difficult to bear, in fact, you think of one thing, and then you understand, that is, if you think of the crying child as yourself, you will forgive his crying, and then have patience to coax him.
We used to be that annoying baby. When we couldn't express our needs in words, we only had two expressions: crying and laughing. With more patience and less complaints, the feeling at home will be better.
02.
If you are really willing to do and understand the above things, really willing to help your wife share some burden, and really willing to take care of your family, you have no time to cheat, because cheating is time-consuming, you can't eat a fish outside, and don't wipe your mouth before going home. If you tell a lie, you have to use countless lies to round it up.
When my daughter-in-law was pregnant, let's take vomiting as an example. When it was serious, she could not stand up. After eating boiled noodles with clean water for a long time, there was no empathy in the world. Whose pain is who's pain, and whose pain is who's pain.
I know that I can't share her pain, but at least when she needs it most, she still has armor around her, so she won't be afraid. At least in the future, she will be very happy when she recalls her most difficult time, because she holds a person who loves her most. That kind of steadfastness and satisfaction make me feel particularly proud as a husband.
Because of all this, I have a sense of participation.
If I really have a sense of participation, I will find that my wife's pregnancy is a very happy thing. I am not a simple bystander, anxious and anxious, but I can improve the happiness of my family through small things one by one. For example, cook a pig's hoof and corn soup today, fry the lotus root slices tomorrow, and stew a mushroom chicken the day after tomorrow. For example, take a walk after dinner to share all the knowledge learned during pregnancy, and know what common sense is originally a rumor. For example, discuss how to prepare a package for childbirth, and how to prepare various necessities for the birth of a child.
All these are small things, but when you put a bowl of soup in the pot, assemble the baby bed, and open the express box to make a complete set of children's clothes, you think, it won't be long before there is another lovely child in the world, which will call your father, that kind of pride. Only if you really participate in it, will you hear the nurse tell you the good news outside the delivery room, crying and crying.
At that time, you will be particularly grateful for a girl who gave you a complete and complete life. This life is very secular, but it is very warm. A family of three or four people, big hands and small hands, hold tightly together.
I don't know if you have found a problem:
Women have a sense of belonging to be mothers from the moment of pregnancy, while most men have a sense of participation at the moment of the birth of their children. The time difference between them is 10 months.
I am particularly glad that my wife and I don't have the 10-month time difference. I have been involved from the beginning. From the first time I accompanied her for prenatal examination to the time before delivery, I accompanied her to climb stairs to promote finger opening, cook every day, take the dog to walk with her, and so on. I spent an interesting pregnancy. I learned to make pregnant meals, know the common sense of childcare, and how to comfort the feelings of pregnant women.
It turns out that my wife can do so many interesting things when she is pregnant for 10 months. Even if you meet a completely different person, I never thought that in 10 months, I can write five books and publish them. It turns out that when a person has a sense of responsibility for home, it will stimulate a lot of energy that you can't see.
I want to make milk powder money for my baby. I want to serve my wife and baby. I have many interesting plans to accompany them to realize. Life is much more interesting than you think. How can you have the heart to destroy it when you see the word "home" written with your own eyes.
Unless, at the beginning, you have no sense of participation.
There is no secret to keeping marriage fresh, but a sense of participation will enhance happiness.
The so-called sense of participation is the high-quality company, the company of Congee and meal in life, the company of faith step by step, and the company of holding the hand of children to grow old together.
You know, why, some men are easy to be seduced?
Because there is no one behind him.
Why do some men, like a tumbler, never fall down?
Because his wife and children are supporting him behind his back.
We can give our children a common family, but because of his parents' cheating, the child can't take off the dirty hat all his life. The child will certainly receive all kinds of instructions when he grows up, and the world will not give your child a good face.
I have a friend who almost divorced. Later, when drinking, he heard that the most mentioned word was "cherishing happiness". Why did he marry a girl, called daughter-in-law, presumably to tell himself to cherish happiness? I like this explanation. A girl, with you all her life, has a hot meal, a hot kang, and a warm word. She doesn't want much. It's not worth mentioning what she has paid.
Those who know how to cherish happiness will probably be closer to the happiness they want.
In my life, I will not encounter too many beautiful things. The wind rises in the valley, the stars are scattered in the sky after the snow, and the love in my twenties. There is a line in "Heart Beating", which is translated very well: there are thousands of people in the world, don't ask for the floating clouds, the people are like rainbows, and know it from above.
What do men think besides sex?
I hope you can imagine that there is a family behind sex.
If you intend to write the word "home", then you should be responsible for your every stroke.
If you write wrong, this life will not be fun.
