Post Date December, 02 2023
I have always disliked the term 'warmth and ambiguity', perhaps because I am too conservative and find it difficult to truly accept the new products of this new era from my bones. There are many explanations for 'warmth and ambiguity', which are constantly changing, mostly referring to unclear attitudes or undisclosed behaviors. As the name suggests, ambiguity is a trend of thought that cannot be exposed in the sun, a hidden disease that blooms into flowers in the dark. When talking about ambiguity, I always think of Wong Kar wai's In Mood for Love, Maggie Cheung's gorgeous cheongsam, Liang Chaowei's melancholy eyes, and complicated lights, which make ambiguity vividly interpreted. But no matter how beautiful the warmth is, it is ultimately just a warmth, and it is difficult to achieve perfect results and virtues. Until the song comes to an end and the people scatter, and the flowers fall, take off the warm crystal shoes, Cinderella is no more than that.
Nowadays, it is an era of warmth and ignorance, where many people no longer speak of love easily due to their lack of confidence in it. At this moment, Nunmai made a grand appearance and swam between red men and green women with its unique posture, satisfying a thirst for emotions without having to bear the burden of emotions. Because there is no love, there is freedom to come and go, and because there is no love, gathering and dispersing becomes a breeze. How close warmth is, how far love is. To put it bluntly, warmth is a manifestation of irresponsible emotions. Since you don't love, why be warm and ignorant? Is it just because you are lonely? Is it just two people meeting, dancing a dance song together, and then going their separate ways? If you love someone, you must speak up bravely, and then face the ups and downs of life together with them. If you don't love them, please put away your warmth and go your own way. Even if you meet by chance, it's just a gentle greeting and a calm heart.
Sometimes I often wonder, what provides space for warmth and ignorance to survive? Who is it that remains steadfast in carrying out the warmth and ignorance to the end? Is it the progress of society that has abandoned the desert of love? Or has the pursuit of true love evolved into a game of love? In fact, to put it bluntly, ambiguity is just a lie, an illusion, a self paralysis and deception. The person who loves you will not choose to be warm with you, and the person who is warm with you may not necessarily love you. Love requires a clear attitude, a clear distinction between black and white, and comes with a responsibility that means giving. So if you don't love, please put away your warmth and don't act under the guise of love.
Some people say that ambiguity is a fourth type of emotion that is more than friendship and less than love. So, many besieged people choose this way to wander between reality and the internet. They are playing with you, playing with warmth and ambiguity. Whether it's language, eyes, or actions, everything is full of warmth and ambiguity. But you can't be serious, you can't be serious, you can't take warmth for granted as love. Otherwise, you will be a fool, and you will be injured to the point where your body is flawless and your heart is scarred. So, warmth is actually just a game between adults, because it is a game, participants must always remember the rules of the game, and once violated, they will be ruthlessly eliminated. Because it is a game, there is no need for specialization, so it can treat many people with warmth and ease at the same time.
Not long ago, I heard a friend tell a story about his online romance. He said he has many younger sisters on the internet, and they usually get along well. However, there is only one younger sister who is particularly enthusiastic when she sees him online, embracing and kissing. Every expression and image exudes a warm and ambiguous atmosphere. At first, this friend just thought that his younger sister was mischievous, but he didn't take it seriously. However, over time, his younger sister's language also became ambiguous, such as "I miss my older brother, did he miss my younger sister?" "My older brother is the closest and most special brother in my younger sister's heart. Such words come from a woman's mouth, coupled with a drooling kiss, which can't help but make people misunderstand. And later on, when this friend spoke to another sister and ignored her, she became very jealous. At one point, the friend thought that this sister liked him, otherwise she wouldn't be so promiscuous with him. However, this sister must have a husband and children, and she's not young enough. How could she be a casual promiscuous person? So she wanted to test it out and let that sister be her own online lover, wiping her hands off the internet. I thought that the younger sister must have happily agreed, but to my friend's surprise, the younger sister asserted that she refused and seriously talked to him about ethics and morality, saying that she is a good woman and mother, and that the internet is just for fun, not to be ambiguous with others, to make my friend stop thinking crooked. My friend choked on her sister's words and couldn't breathe. For now, let's not say who wants to be crooked, it depends on her initiative since the date. It's easy for discerning people to tell. Women are bones and flesh made of water, originally noble and reserved, but there are only a few who voluntarily bring them to their doorstep. Perhaps on the internet, people have become too timid and have no scruples. Perhaps many words have nothing to do with love, but they are very close to warmth and ignorance. Later, it became clear that for a long time, the younger sister stopped pestering him, as if suddenly evaporating on the internet. But what surprised my friend was that a month later, the younger sister appeared again and continued to flirt with him as if nothing had happened. This made my friend very angry. Please explain your love clearly and clearly. If you don't love, don't flirt with me. On one hand, it was ambiguous, and on the other hand, it made people not think it was crooked. All the good things were taken care of by her alone. Afterwards, a friend learned that this sister was not just being intimate with him, but also with every brother. She admitted that she had not spoken of love, so she had a clear conscience. This kind of person who appears ambiguous but actually plays with emotions will eventually be played with by emotions.
In theory, for a person within a besieged city, there is no qualification to say love again. However, if only the word "love" is not spoken out, and ambiguous activities emerge endlessly, then what is the difference between it and selling dog meat while hanging sheep's head? Love is just plain love, just magnificent love, just fair love, not love, let warmth go away. Perhaps some love goes against morality and ethics, but at least it is more straightforward and enjoyable than warmth and ignorance. Ambiguity is just a false cloak, and in essence, it is not wanting to bear the responsibility of love. Warm and ignorant people are all in a wait-and-see state. If it's good, continue, if it's not good, apply oil to the soles of their feet and slip away. Warm ignorance opens the door wide for freedom to come and go, because without love, one cannot be true or true.
I know that in the vast world and vast internet, there are too many loyal supporters of 'warmth and ignorance'. It is understandable to ask for directions with warmth and ignorance before the relationship is clear. But if you are afraid of taking responsibility, only warmth and ignorance are enough, and love is not talked about, it only creates an ethereal wind and snow moon. What is the benefit of being with others and oneself? No matter how beautiful, it will eventually be just a fleeting moment. When warmth meets ambiguity, it is just a psychological game played by two people with excellent psychological qualities. Because of loneliness, warmth dances together to a beautiful Huaezi, and the song ends in a desolate atmosphere. When warmth encounters love, it is destined to be a catastrophe. The falling flowers are intentional, flowing mercilessly, and in vain, their sincerity is like a peach blossom in the wild. No matter how angry it is, no one will appreciate it, and in the end, it will only drift away secretly. The love pursued by the world is a tacit understanding of mutual understanding, a feeling of uncertainty between two people, a companionship of sharing joys and sorrows, and a happiness of being together. Love has nothing to do with warmth and ignorance. Love is a form of understanding, tolerance, and responsibility. If you don't love, please put away your warmth and don't let it dazzle your eyes and confuse your heart.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
