Post Date December, 03 2023
Sometimes women in love feel more lonely. Constrained by a stable love, there is less thought of looking around, ignored by the people around him, and more melancholy that there is no way to communicate.
Cases
The more she "wants", the more he runs away
The 28-year-old Hong and her boyfriend stayed together for 8 years. It was Hong who worked two more jobs outside of work before her boyfriend finished his doctorate.
With a high education background, her boyfriend has developed very smoothly in the workplace and is now promoted to vice president of the company. Although the pressure was great, he was full of ambition and completely immersed in his success.
At the end of their love race and when Hong was about to become the bride, she began to hesitate whether she should marry the more and more strange sleeper. Since the end of last year, Hong has found his obvious changes: coming back later and later, speaking less and less, traveling more and more, and feeling more and more depressed. At first, Hong thought that it was because of the great pressure of his work, and made every effort to amuse him, but her boyfriend was always indifferent.
The more absent-minded her boyfriend is, the more upset Hong is. The only way for Hong to get rid of his anxiety is to talk to him and ask him why... But the more Hong talks, the more problems they have. Her boyfriend always thinks Hong is making trouble and doesn't sympathize with his hard work. He asked Hong in reply, "We have cars and houses, and I haven't changed my mind. Isn't everything all right? I can't coax you every day as I did when I first fell in love!"
As a result of pleading and confrontation, the boyfriend spent less and less time at home, became more and more silent after returning home, and became less and less sexual... He was no longer the considerate man who stood up in the middle of the night to pour tea for the rainbow. Now, in the face of the gloom of the rainbow, he has always been indifferent. Even when Hong fell ill in bed, he was too lazy to ask for warmth and comfort. Instead, he sat idly in the living room watching TV. What made Hong even more unbearable was that he knew that his behavior made her worried and depressed. He just didn't explain, didn't express, and didn't apologize.
Hong, who had played enough monologues, finally couldn't stand the lonely love and proposed to break up. But he cried innocently, "Why? Whose life is not so dull?"
His attitude makes people feel that in this love, the injured one seems to be him, not his wife Hong.
Psychoanalysis
Women's initiative and men's grievances
Seeking the feeling of love is women's lifelong mission, so they actively communicate with men for the "feeling of love". However, men often ignore or evade women's active communication, as if women are making trouble.
Do men never feel the love of women? Of course not. Men actually know the pain of women being ignored or ignored, but they have the desire to frustrate women in their subconscious. Frustration women sometimes make them improve their confidence or make them balance.
Some scholars pointed out that this feeling of men is the desire, phenomenon and motivation of men to frustrate women. Sometimes, men project their dissatisfaction in the workplace and life into the family, because they know that women care about their feelings. "Bad" satisfies their "destructive desire". However, women's indifference, neglect and resistance to men's setbacks often provoke them to double their punishment - they are more indifferent.
Some men have limited ability to reflect on this behavior. They usually lack self-confidence, are dissatisfied with life, and lack the ability to love. They need comprehensive adjustment in personality and psychological state.
In fact, in the heart of a man who does not love life, has no confidence and is immature, he will only think about his own success or failure, but will not take the initiative to care about the feelings of women. It is because of this inextricable knot that they feel aggrieved by women's dissatisfaction and feel innocent and helpless.
Once deeply involved in the relationship between men and women, men are afraid of being "caught" by women. Women's persistent "care" for themselves is sometimes seen by them as intervention and control. However, women are afraid that men "don't grasp" themselves. The biggest worry of women is that men don't respond and pay attention. They believe that this is the reflection of men's indifference and lack of attention.
This is the natural difference between men and women: men need more freedom, they are more independent, and need more physical and psychological space; Women are the opposite. Compared with men, their life content is narrower and more dependent psychologically.
