Post Date December, 02 2023
For unmarried couples, during the days of oil, salt, soy sauce, and vinegar, there is often a slight itch for three years and a major itch for seven years, which can even lead to emotional breakdown or even separation. So how can we maintain our marital life and deepen our emotions? In fact, there are some things that cannot be done in marital life.
Adhere to the principle of gender equality
Nowadays, families with dual employees account for the majority, and couples spend almost equal amounts of time at home. If all the household chores are done by the woman, being a wife would be too tiring. Men and women should share equally in cooking and taking care of children. Husbands should understand that the true "man" in people's hearts today is a man who can work well outside, manage his family well inside, and be both firm and gentle.
Don't talk about divorce
After marriage, it is common for couples to argue and argue. The problem is to treat these contradictions correctly and turn the big issues into small ones. When friction occurs, it is important not to mention divorce immediately. Be careful not to say harsh words that will make you regret in the future, and do not hold grudges against the other party. You should know that when a husband or wife encounters difficulties and misfortunes, they should support and rely on each other. After passing the most difficult stage, the marital relationship will be stronger and sweeter.
Don't separate each other's families
Both husband and wife are not simple individuals, and each other will have their own family and social relationships. With more people, various situations will inevitably arise. At this point, both spouses should understand each other, think about each other's thoughts, and be anxious about each other's anxieties, so that the relationship becomes more and more secure. One party needs help at home, and the other party should do their best to support it.
Don't be completely self centered
After marriage, both spouses will have some bad habits exposed: toothpaste squeezed awkwardly, cigarette ash by the bed, littering with dirty socks, and so on. For these, both parties should try their best to learn tolerance and accommodation, without blindly blaming the other party. Especially as a wife, it's not necessary for the husband to do it his own way, just remind him to pay attention next time.
Don't go home and vent your anger
Both husband and wife should not vent their unpleasant emotions outside to their homes, as losing temper can cause unhappiness in the whole family. This is not to say that people should hide their grievances from their families when they are outside, but to find a suitable time to pour out their frustrations to the other party. Both husband and wife should encourage or persuade each other with a gentle attitude at this time, helping them to quickly eliminate their mental distress. I should believe that even the most difficult things will pass with the passage of time.
It is not advisable to "speak up" on economic issues
How to spend money is not a small matter, and many couples simply disagree because of money. Before marriage, people spend their money the final say, and have developed the habit of "independence". After getting married, it is important to pay attention to the concept of family, and to discuss and arrange expenses together in a reasonable manner. When the family's economic conditions are not abundant, both spouses should have self-control and not make arbitrary purchases.
It's not appropriate to face the past and always think, 'Maybe...'
When there is a rift between a couple, it is important to avoid constantly thinking about the words' maybe 'in your mind:' Maybe I would be happier if I married someone else ',' Maybe I would be better if I didn't get married ',' Maybe we... '. These 'maybe' are all negative thoughts, and the more you think about them, the worse things will become. Couples should reminisce more about the happy times they spent together, only in this way can they make people happy unconsciously.
Do not return late or stay out without reason
Currently, many families are dual workers and often only get together for dinner. The tense pace of work and life has already limited the time for couples to communicate their emotions. If one party returns late without any reason or even sleeps out, it will even add anxiety and trouble to the other party's psychology. Over time, the relationship between husband and wife will become a "passive water" that can easily dry up.
Don't expose each other's shortcomings
This approach will seriously undermine the other party's self-esteem. Over time, the relationship between husband and wife will be on the brink of collapse. More seriously, children may also look down on their parents as a result, leading to the mental disintegration of the family.
It is not advisable to suspect each other without reason
If trust is the foundation of love between couples, then suspicion is the worm of love. If the husband or wife has unprovoked contact with the opposite sex, and even develops into surveillance of the other party, it is harmful to both the couple's relationship and family stability without any benefits.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
