Divorced woman: I feel tired after living with a divorced man for three years. Do I still want to stay together

I am a divorced woman. I have been living with a divorced man for three years now. But in the past three years, many things have happened. He is usually very good to me. But after one year, I found that he has an ambiguous relationship with other women. I always believed that he has a relationship with a woman. I really found out last year.

Also, he has a son, and his ex-wife remarried and divorced, but recently even his ex-wife came back. They went out together for the Spring Festival, but what about me? Watching all this happen, he always said it was for his son, but did he take into account my feelings? Moreover, my family and his family also have conflicts. His mother doesn't like me, and she still wants him to marry unmarried. Every time the gossip outside is spread by his mother, everyone feels tired!

He sent me a message, but I didn't reply to him. I was wondering whether to give up? But I used to think that there was a result with him. I bought all the houses. Isn't everything I paid in vain? In fact, I came home to live in every quarrel, and then he took the initiative to find me. Now his mother said that I was pestering him. He is better than me in economy. In fact, he has been helping me all the time together. Now he still wants to help me open a shop, but it has become such a mess. There is no need to cohabit, so I can move out and live. What's the meaning of this?

He likes drinking very much. Every time he finishes drinking, I pick him up. Even if he is drunk and refuses to go home, he will drive out for a ride. I still accompany him. Every night, I massage him until he sleeps. I plan to spend my whole life with him. But recently, because of the pressure at home and outside, he said that it is impossible to have a baby with me. He said that as long as I am good, I don't need to sneak in. For him, face is more important than anything else. He thinks that he is successful in his career. As a boss, it is impossible to lose face. But he was not willing to let me go,

He said that there was no way to solve the problem at his mother's side, and he would not take me out again at his friend's side. We could only go from being aboveboard to being sneaky. Is it necessary for us to stay together?

[Reply]

For remarriage, there are many problems and they are more complex. In my opinion, the remarriers need to do the following: 1) have a good attitude, be able to face the remarriage choice maturely and correctly, be confident in the future, face the remarriage life positively and optimistically, and not be affected by the past emotional experience; 2) Be clear about what you want. Do you want to find a wallet or a partner who likes to go through the rest of your life together? 3) We should have more inclusiveness and love, know how to treat and accept each other's everything, and be good at coordinating complex family relationships.

As far as you are concerned, the urgent problem to be solved now is the problem of "choice is greater than effort". Perhaps your choice from the beginning is a mistake. This man is not suitable for you. If so, no matter how hard you try, the final outcome will not be good. And you also behave casually in this relationship. You should know that whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, it is easy to choose cohabitation and the other party will despise you.

When you cohabit for one year, you have found that he has problems, which are very principled. Why don't you stop in time and continue to cohabit with him? In the following cohabitation, it is obvious that there are more problems exposed. He not only has an improper relationship with other women, but also has an uncertain relationship with his ex-wife. Moreover, his mother does not accept you and thinks that his son is excellent. He can marry an unmarried woman, but obviously does not treat you as a dish. So what is the matter with you to maintain an unclear, unclear and furtive relationship? Are you not humiliating yourself!

For this reason, no matter how you feel about this man, if he doesn't take responsibility, can't give you credit, can't give you the future, can't make decisions for his feelings, especially can't be clean, can't be single-minded about his feelings, then no matter how good he promises to you, it's all farting, it's all empty, why should he take his hot face to stick someone else's cold butt. If you go on like this, you are undoubtedly wasting your time. This man has clearly told you that in the future, you are only worthy to be his underground lover. As for whether you can be transferred to the ground, let's say two things.

Ask yourself, if you want a home, this man may not be able to give you. If you want to find a poor parasite from him, then choose to take risks.