Post Date December, 02 2023
When we fall in love, as long as we encounter the person we love, we will love them regardless of their family environment or distance. They believe that as long as two people love each other, it's good. But when they truly entered marriage, they realized that life was not as good as they imagined. Due to their different life concepts and habits, the supposed harmonious family always exuded a smell of gunpowder.
My friend Li Qiang is from the north. After graduating from university, he was directly assigned to work in Beijing, and his household registration was also registered in Beijing. His work and life have become relatively stable. But what made him worried was that he was almost on his third year and there was no suitable person around him.
Later, through a colleague's introduction, I met Hao Jing at work. Hao Jing's hometown is in Zhejiang. At first, he didn't like Li Qiang, but he felt that Li Qiang's work ability was strong and he was a "potential stock". Under Li Qiang's repeated pursuit, the two entered the palace of marriage.
After less than three months of marriage, the two had nearly 20 arguments. Li Qiang is a northerner and always likes to eat pasta such as Mantou and Shaobing (Baked cake in griddle), but Hao Jing is a southerner and loves rice very much. The two people always quarrel about eating Mantou and rice every day. Sometimes Li Qiang would cook rice for Hao Jing to appease her, but Hao Jing also complained that Li Qiang's rice was too dry and not delicious. Two people can't eat a piece, and Li Qiang's work pressure is high, so Li Qiang always gets angry with Hao Jing, saying she's too flirtatious. Later on, the two of them had children and lived a comfortable life like this. Now that both of them are almost in their fourth year, they cannot see the happiness that marriage brings to them.
This is the dilemma faced by many "two place marriage" couples around them, as their different dietary habits affect their marital relationships. Actually, this is a very unworthy thing. If two people really love each other, then they should understand and tolerate each other. If you like Mantou and she likes rice, you can eat Mantou or rice one day and adjust your eating habits.
The most important thing is that couples do not want to change each other, but to adapt to each other. When couples live together for decades, you may find that you have loved Mantou for rice, and you have loved Mantou for rice. So, since we love each other, don't let the different lifestyle habits between the two places affect the relationship between husband and wife, just like there are no two identical leaves in this world, but they can still make a beautiful specimen.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
