Did I make a mistake when I was divorced because I peeped at my husband's mobile phone

Last week, my husband came home late and didn't know what he was doing. Sometimes, I fell asleep waiting in bed. In the early morning, he came back, made a loud noise when he closed the door, and lay on the bed without taking a bath.

Yesterday, because of working overtime, I came back after 11 o'clock in the evening and took a bath. I was about to go to bed when I heard the sound of opening the door. My husband came back and asked him to take a bath. He took off his coat on the sofa and went to take a bath. I saw a piece of paper sticking out of his pocket, long and narrow, which aroused my curiosity. When I looked closer, I was shocked. It was a bank card consumption order, which cost 50000 yuan. I didn't add anything at home and didn't buy clothes and bags for me. I spent 50000 yuan. But he explained that his friend forgot to bring his card for his birthday. I gave it to him, and others lent it to me, and it will be returned to me in a few days.

Well, I'll accept his statement for the time being. No wonder I came home late these days. I went to help my friend. Just when I wanted to believe him, his feet showed up. He left his mobile phone at home because he got up late and went to work in a hurry. I went home early and saw my mobile phone thinking that several missed calls were from the same person. Open the phone and find several ambiguous messages: Dear, thank you for accompanying me on my birthday yesterday, and thank you for paying the bill for me. Let's meet tomorrow at the same place. I have something to tell you. Probably no one answered the phone and sent a text message.

In this case, I have complete evidence and need not hide it from him. When I came home that night, I uncovered his secret and said that he had been lying to me. However, he didn't mean to surrender at all. Instead, he said that I don't know how to be polite and respect others' privacy. I can't look at it casually. There should be room for freedom between husband and wife, and learning to give each other a little freedom is the art of husband and wife. Flipping the bag and peeking at the mobile phone are taboos of trust between husband and wife. Since ancient times, information has been relatively private. Before, the envelope had to be opened by the recipient himself. He told me a lot of truth, and finally said that since two people have no trust and freedom, let's divorce.

Divorce? I never thought it would be so easy to talk through his mouth. If we get divorced, he can go to his "friend" and turn the junior into a regular, but I have nothing. I'm really confused!

Reply from the consultant:

I don't think you have done anything wrong. After all, you have discovered a major event. Otherwise, you will keep them in the dark and indulge them all the time. Once exposed, it is a good thing for you and him. You and he can have the next plan and plan and live more frankly. Paper can't hold fire. It's not found at this time, and the truth will come out later.

As for your husband's claim that you have violated his privacy, this is his sophistry. Between husband and wife, checking each other's mobile phone is not an invasion of others' privacy at all. Loved couples can open their hearts, and their mobile phones can accept each other's inspection at any time. As long as there is no ghost in their hearts, they are not afraid of the other party's inspection. He has a ghost in his heart, so he won't let you check and tell you a lot of truth.

Divorce is not the best solution. It is a last resort. You'd better persuade him not to divorce, which is good for both people. The divorce you said from your husband may be a momentary angry remark, but it is more likely to have been planned for a long time, but you have not found the fuse to ignite it, and you go to check his mobile phone just became the fuse of divorce, making his "small universe" suddenly burst. To say the least, even if it is divorce, it is also his fault. At least let him pay the price for his mistakes and make corresponding compensation to make himself live with more dignity.