Post Date November, 17 2024
What is the bottom line that cannot be touched in a marital relationship? When arguing, we are likely to say words that are very hurtful to each other due to anger, or even touch the bottom line of each other. So what are the bottom lines that cannot be touched in a marital relationship?
Many people believe that as long as the relationship is good, any difficulties are not a problem, but you know, there are some bottom lines between couples that cannot be touched, otherwise it is easy to get divorced. Today, the online medical editor will share with you which bottom lines of marital relationships should not be touched the most. We hope everyone can learn more about these ways of getting along with couples.
In life, everything should be done within a certain size, and marital relationships are no exception. No matter what a couple does, they cannot break through the bottom line of their relationship. Once they break through the bottom line, the red light will immediately light up, and divorce will be the ultimate solution. I think there should be ten bottom lines in a marital relationship that cannot be broken through.
1. Men being beaten by their wives is education, while women being beaten by their husbands is harm.
Between husband and wife, men are physically strong. If they start beating their wives, they will definitely bring down their emotions. It may not be that women can't bear it, so they have to file for divorce. Even if the woman reluctantly forgives the other person in the end, there is always a scar in her subsequent relationship. Especially once a man does something, he may not necessarily do it again in future relationships. Sometimes, when he becomes impulsive, he will do it again until it becomes a habit. No matter how much emotion there is, it will be destroyed. The stronger a man is in terms of physical strength when dealing with emotions, the less he should engage in violence. Even if the relationship between two people is completely broken, there is no need to engage in violence towards the other person. This is not like women hitting men, it can make men wake up, and sometimes it is also an education.
2. An extramarital affair is destined to be an underground activity, and what is played out publicly is marriage.
If one spouse has an extramarital affair, but the other party is unaware or uncertain, the relationship between the couple may still be sustainable, especially for those who do not want to divorce but only seek some extramarital romance, extramarital affairs may not necessarily lead to the breakdown of the relationship. But if one party makes the extramarital affair public, it undoubtedly directly challenges the marriage. At this point, the other party cannot tolerate it.
3. Cursing the other person can be jokingly called love, but cursing their close relatives can only increase hatred.
Some people say that fighting between couples is like cursing or love, but only the couple knows what the degree is. Cursing the other person may not be fatal, but no matter what conflicts arise, one should not curse the other person's relatives, especially their biological parents. This is even worse than directly cursing the other person, making it difficult for the other person to accept. Because Chinese people value filial piety the most, as couples who are not related by blood but are closest, if one party scolds the other party's parents, it will definitely make the other party feel angry and may immediately slap the other party in the face.
4. Occasional infidelity may be forgiven, and unethical feelings can lead to despair.
As couples, many often live together with other family members or have frequent interactions, but if there is an immoral relationship, such as a wife having an improper relationship with an uncle or father-in-law, or a husband having an affair with an aunt. That will directly lead to the breakdown of the marital relationship, even if it is maintained for some reason, the marital relationship will still be distorted. Therefore, both spouses should consciously hold onto their respective responsibilities in the family, love each other closely, and be polite and courteous. In some special circumstances between couples, infidelity may occur. If this kind of infidelity is just an interlude in the couple's life, it's okay to let it pass. However, if it's an immoral relationship, it may directly lead to the other party being sent to the "Love Valley".
5. Do not deceive the other party's feelings to deceive money, let alone deceive money to support your lover.
Husband and wife should have shared joys and sorrows, but if one party finds some excuses to deceive the other party and swindle the money out for some improper purposes, such as gambling or giving money to women outside. When the truth is revealed, it can immediately lead to a crisis in the marital relationship. If the economic foundation of the family is shaken as a result, it will definitely shake the emotional foundation.
6. Secret online dating is a personal matter, but running away from home never leads back.
Believe in online dating, go online whenever you have the opportunity, and find excuses to date netizens. Even be infatuated with netizens, find excuses, or run away without reason. Finally, he was cheated of money and had no way out, but ran back. This type of woman can harm her husband, forcing them to make up their minds to make a clean break and take an early break.
7. It's okay to be ruthless towards the other party, but encouraging parents to exert pressure is not acceptable.
When conflicts arise between spouses, it is already a matter between them. However, if there is something between the spouses, they add fuel and vinegar to their parents and let their superiors intervene in their affairs. Especially when using one's own parents to exert pressure on the other party, over time, it will inevitably cause the other party to feel serious discomfort or damage their self-esteem, ultimately leading to the end of the marital relationship, often involving family members. Contradictions between husband and wife not only cannot be resolved, but often worsen, and in severe cases, they may even divorce.
8. Conquering the other party based on evidence, but monitoring the other party is too unreasonable.
I really caught the other party's handle and could force them to correct or serve as evidence of divorce. However, being suspicious is a great enemy between couples. Sometimes, when there are some emotions, being suspicious can distort the soul and do things that the other party cannot bear, even some crazy things. For example, to harm suspected individuals, or to use various means to monitor their privacy. Once this behavior occurs, it can make the marital relationship extremely tense. It's unnecessary to do this if you don't want a divorce.
9. Husband and wife should be reasonable and should not abuse or show malice.
Between husband and wife, it is important to be reasonable and say things. If one party is prone to using vulgar language or insulting the other party, it will definitely cause the other party's mental breakdown. Because insults indicate that one spouse no longer considers the other person at all.
10. Love outside of marriage is easy to understand, but promiscuity brings back sexually transmitted diseases and destroys the whole family.
Having love outside of marriage is a common occurrence for modern men and women, and it is not surprising for everyone. But when men or women act recklessly outside, no matter how they usually cover it up or even boast about how innocent they are, once they bring back sexually transmitted diseases from outside, it can also infect the other party of the couple. It must immediately lead to the breakdown of the marital relationship, and in fact, this kind of thing is not uncommon. For example, the sexual transmission of AIDS can also destroy families.
11. Separation from the other party.
Since they are legal couples, it is the responsibility of both parties to meet each other's sexual needs. If one party is always separated, their relationship will inevitably encounter problems over time. From another perspective, sexual activity is a very important factor in maintaining emotional harmony between couples. If they are separated and have no sexual activity for a long time, their emotional state can be imagined.
I really caught the other party's handle and could force them to correct or serve as evidence of divorce. However, being suspicious is a great enemy between couples. Sometimes, when there are some emotions, being suspicious can distort the soul and do things that the other party cannot bear, even some crazy things. For example, to harm suspected individuals, or to use various means to monitor their privacy. Once this behavior occurs, it can make the marital relationship extremely tense. It's unnecessary to do this if you don't want a divorce.
12. The relationship with my mother-in-law has become rigid.
Men all hope that their women can establish good relationships with their mothers. After all, these are the two women they love the most. They both say that one mountain cannot tolerate two tigers, and as wives, one should have a positive attitude. A mother-in-law is the mother who nurtures your husband. Without a mother-in-law, how could he come from? If a woman can establish good relationships with her mother-in-law, it will be more conducive to the promotion of your relationship if they do not let men struggle in the middle.
The bottom line of arguments between couples:
1. Unworthy embarrassment:
A couple's argument should not be in front of their parents, relatives, or neighbors, but rather in public places to save face for each other. (When giving face, the woman can twist the man's arm with her hand to indicate that she is giving face at this time)
2. Don't make trouble without reason:
No matter who is right or wrong, as long as there is an argument, the man must gently coax the woman five times before she can immediately calm down. However, if the man has already coaxed the woman five times and the woman still makes trouble without reason, the man has the right to remain silent until the woman no longer loses her temper.
3. Don't leave immediately:
When arguing at home, it's not allowed to leave immediately. If you really have to leave the community, it's not allowed to leave without your phone or turn off the phone.
4. Not involving parents:
Respect the parents and elders of the other party, and do not be impolite to them when arguing or unhappy.
5. Don't smash things randomly:
If you want to vent your anger, don't smash anything. You can only eat, and if you have itching, you can only smash the pillow. (The man should eat more to prevent the woman from getting fat and feeling worse after eating more. The woman can use the man's card to buy more clothes to comfort the injured heart, and when appropriate, she can also buy one or two pairs of socks for the man.)
6. Not threatening to die:
When arguing, both men and women are not allowed to threaten each other with topics such as divorce, running away, or suicide.
7. Try not to stay overnight:
Try not to argue overnight. When feeling sleepy at night, the man must take the initiative to hug the woman. The woman is angry and makes every effort to push the man not to give up, but it cannot exceed five times. If it exceeds five times, the man can choose to give up, but the next day, both parties cannot bring up this matter again. (The man is not allowed to snore to prevent the woman from waking up from a beautiful dream, which may lead to further conflicts. When waking up in the morning, the man should ensure that the sleeping position is facing the woman directly.) Understanding is important: the wrong party should apologize actively, and the faultless party should forgive the other party as soon as possible after the wrong party apologizes and compensates.
