Post Date December, 02 2023
There was once an advertisement at KFC that said, 'It's better to go in and transform it than criticize it from the outside.'. This sentence also applies to the relationship between a couple, as the relationship requires integration rather than transformation. Forcibly changing the other party may lead to the breakdown of the relationship.
Excessive "transformation" of the other party can easily hurt emotions
Husband and wife relationship is a special interpersonal relationship that requires mutual respect between spouses and requires long-term companionship in marital life. Throughout history, countless couples have found that "getting along is easy, but staying together is difficult" in long-term marriage. The main reason is that both parties want to transform each other in life to adapt to themselves.
In real life, there are many phenomena of marital relationships breaking down. Although both spouses possess excellent qualities, they lack the understanding and integration skills of the essence of marriage. "Transforming each other" is a common misconception, as it only requires others to comply with oneself and violates the principle of mutual "respect" between spouses. Therefore, couples who transform each other often end up unhappy Don't let your mouth open and divide the relationship between husband and wife
It's better to "transform" each other than to "integrate" each other
In marital life, there are both physiological and psychological differences between men and women, and living together inevitably exposes their differences. As the saying goes, no contradiction makes a husband and wife. Having conflicts is not a problem, how to handle them is a problem, and it is also the key to the success or failure of marriage.
Many young couples, after encountering conflicts, only blindly demand that the other party adapt to themselves through transformation. This unreasonable demand can cause certain harm to the couple's relationship. When there are disagreements between couples, don't just consider "transformation", you can appropriately solve your differences through "integration". Integration is a two-way interaction that adapts to each other by changing one's unreasonable habits, enabling each party to transform themselves, thus achieving a lifelong "integration" and loving marital relationship.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
