Post Date November, 17 2024
Once upon a time, men were forced to take full responsibility in their sexual life, from the initiation of sexual activity to the warmth afterwards. Many women do not realize that their proactive demands in sexual life can bring invisible pressure to men.
Some wives say, "Foreplay takes a long time, I like it." So, the husband suppresses his excitement and calms down the impulses. Some wives say, "You should do this, not that, otherwise my feelings won't be so good." So, the husband tries to adapt to taking care of her feelings.
I have also experienced this process before, accustomed to constantly making demands during sexual life, never asking my husband about his sexual preferences, and enjoying the beauty of sex to the fullest under his meticulous efforts. I hope to have an orgasm every time, which leads my husband into the misconception that he is responsible for his wife's orgasm.
Gradually, the husband realized that his contribution was no longer due to love, and that having sex had become "fulfilling one's obligations," and a sense of oppression that had never been felt before was approaching him. So, he became indifferent and numb to sexual life. Later, in order to avoid my sexual demands, I often stayed overnight outside. At this moment, I realized if there was a problem with my own request. Through timely communication, we finally achieved a beautiful sexual experience together.
In fact, sexual life is a matter for both husband and wife, and both parties in love should be equal. While proposing their own sexual needs, they should also consider the other party's needs, that is, they should not only meet their own needs but also take into account the other party's feelings. If he simply satisfies his wife's demands, the husband will feel invisible pressure on his heart and eventually develop a sense of disgust towards sexual life.
During sexual activity, words unconsciously spoken by women can also bring pressure to their husbands, leading to a loss of interest in sexual activity. For example, when a man asks, "Is this okay?" and a wife says, "It's okay" or "not good," it clearly lowers her husband's confidence. Especially some blaming language, such as' can you stop just thinking about your comfort ', or some dissatisfied words, such as' can't do it anymore', can cause stress for men.
If a woman wants more "sexual pleasure", don't forget to lighten her husband's sexual burden first, pay attention to the way she speaks, and consider herself the protagonist in sexual life.
