Post Date December, 03 2023
Zhang Zhe and his wife have been married for 15 years, and they have spent almost all these 15 years in marriage wars. Not long ago, the two people were at the point of divorce. The cause of the conflict was that Zhang Zhe went to Guangzhou on a business trip for half a month and only called his wife once. After returning home, his wife asked him why he was so cold. Zhang Zhe kept explaining how hard his business trip was, but his wife ignored it. So Zhang Zhe began to talk about "Long live understanding". However, the more he said, the more angry his wife became. Finally, there was a big fight. After the quarrel, Zhang Zhe filed for divorce.
Communication between husband and wife should be hands-on
In fact, Zhang Zhe's wife is not an unreasonable woman, but it is precisely because Zhang Zhe said too many things that she could not understand. American psychologists have found that almost all women do not like their husbands to reason with them, but prefer their husbands to express their love with body language. For example, when Zhang Zhe's wife constantly complains that Zhang Zhe is cold to her, Zhang Zhe just needs to come forward and hug her tightly, and the wife's resentment will disappear immediately.
Why does a hug have such a magical effect? Psychologists have found that women's brains are mostly characterized by right-brain dominance, which determines that they prefer to perceive things rather than understand things with logical rationality. That is to say, the husband had better convey this clear message to his wife by hugging and affectionate touching: didn't you say I was cold? You see, how enthusiastic I am to you now! Therefore, psychologists advocate that when communicating with his wife, the husband should close his mouth, extend his hand, and use body language to convey feelings and resolve conflicts.
So, for a wife, do you also have to keep quiet with her husband? Psychologists believe that the principle of keeping hands and mouth still applies to women. However, when women express some kind of love with actions, they also need to use clear and unmistakable language to make clear what they want to express. Most women tend to express their opinions to their husbands in indirect or even vague language. They do not understand that most men are left-brained, and their intuitive ability is often poor. Therefore, they are more likely to accept clear and unmistakable language.
