Post Date December, 03 2023
This is a story told by a friend during a meal. In fact, this is actually her friend's story. The male and female protagonists of the story are said to be a couple who have been dating for a long time. Later, for some unknown reason, they broke up with each other. But after the breakup, the woman will constantly turn around and suggest that she wants to get back together, but the man seems to be at a loss, or perhaps because the breakup time is still too short and there has been no positive response. The result was that she went back and forth several times, and suddenly, everyone heard that the girl had instantly spread the news of getting married and marrying abroad.
She asked me with an incomprehensible expression, saying it was inexplicable, right? How could this girl be so repetitive? How terrible!
I actually don't know why she is like this while listening to the story; Of course, I still don't know why she has these behaviors now. However, I don't think there is anything bad or not bad about this whole thing.
For my friend, she is still in a relatively clear age of duality between black and white, love and non love, and good and evil. But at my age, things are hardly just two sides; There is often a broad intermediate nature between black and white. And the older you get, the more you feel about intersexuality. I guess I'm getting closer and losing sight of both ages, right?
Indeed, we can use malice to interpret the mentality of the woman in the previous story. For example, comments like stepping on two boats, trying on both sides at the same time, saying you want to turn around and actually socializing with others, wanting to be loved by many people, unable to resist loneliness, and even inexplicable. But we can also interpret her mentality with kindness. For example, after a breakup, even if someone is chasing after you, it's still good to not forget your original date. I still keep trying to get back together, until I finally feel like I can't get back together, and then I feel heartbroken and want to leave my hometown and sever the past through marriage. Sounds reasonable, doesn't it? And this explanation feels much more poignant and touching.
But which one is the true intention of this girl? You don't know who is reading this article, nor do I know who is writing it. The person who reported it doesn't know, and even the person involved may not know. Isn't it strange that the parties themselves don't know? Actually, it's not surprising. Because I'm afraid both of us have had the experience of making decisions based solely on intuition and impulse in the present. Rational or logical things have not been considered at all, or just feel that it is necessary not to do so in the present. As for the reasons, sometimes it really takes some time to recall before fully understanding the reasons for one's decision at that time.
Since even the parties involved often don't know their own thoughts, we outsiders have no right to blame or feel strange about others. It is likely that for the parties involved, looking back in the future, all decisions actually have rationality and inevitability! So, I actually hate people who like to forcefully transfer their moral values to other people's love stories. After all, there is no validity in placing such things as moral values in the world. Who can say that what they think is right is what others should also think is right?
I remember reading a book that interprets morality as follows (unfortunately, I forgot who the author was, only remember being a Russian philosopher. If anyone knows, please let me know). He said that people with a sense of morality are actually the ones with the strongest sense of revenge. Because simply disdaining or condemning others oneself is no longer enough to satisfy them. They hope that their contempt becomes a universal condemnation; They hope that everyone can attack the objects they hope to despise like them. This hatred is even so strong that it hopes to make the conscience of the condemned stand with them. Only in this way can they truly be satisfied.
What other weapon in the world can be so effective? Only morality can cause such great pressure and harm. So, perhaps from a certain perspective, a sense of morality may not necessarily make the world a better place, at most it only makes us similar and uses it to eliminate dissent. So, may a strong sense of morality be synonymous with a lack of tolerance?
