Can I believe that my husband and a third party were caught having sex before he swore to change his mind

Three years ago, my husband and I gave birth to our little baby. Just a few months after the baby was born, my husband was having an affair with another woman, but when I discovered it, I quickly let it go. Considering that the child is young, I did not pursue his infidelity. My lack of accountability did not stop him. In private, he often contacts third parties. I took advantage of him not paying attention to his phone and saw hundreds of daily chat records on WeChat. My spirit was really about to collapse.

I am a strong woman, and in terms of career, I am very stable, even more outstanding than my husband. I work hard every day and never let him do any household chores. His parents help take care of his children, and I have greatly reduced the burden of life. In my spare time, I cook delicious food for my husband. Every time I watch him eat happily, I feel very comfortable in my heart. I always believe that our relationship can be maintained like this. What is the result? He is still secretly ambiguous with a third party.

Recently, he often doesn't come home at night, and every time he comes back, he keeps giving me a lot of excuses. I know he has a tough mouth and a glib tongue. Even if I reveal the matter of peeking at his WeChat account, he won't admit to cheating. In order for him to refute without reason, I followed him and investigated evidence of his infidelity. I am well aware that by doing so, our marriage may be over, but I can't swallow it. I gave him the opportunity to cheat three years ago, and now he insults me with cheating. Forgive him this time, but I can't do it.

Recently, when he comes back late, I don't call to greet him, and I pretend to believe the reasons he made up for me. He thought I was easy to deceive and relaxed his guard. He foolishly opened a room with a third party, and I caught him right behind him. The spectacle of catching a third party in the main room has attracted many bystanders. I suppressed my anger, but eventually it erupted and slapped my husband in the face. I originally slapped a third party, but seeing her innocent youth, I stopped.

The word 'divorce' repeatedly appeared in my mind, and he went home with me in fear. After arriving home, his parents looked at me and greeted me with concern. At that moment, my fragile heart broke and tears couldn't stop flowing. Tell them the truth and propose a divorce. His father took off his shoes and slapped his husband in the face, while the child was scared and cried loudly, leaving the house in a mess.

After calming down, my husband looked like he had changed his ways and even wrote a thousand word guarantee letter to me. The words inside were very clear, 'If the same thing happens, voluntarily clean up and leave the house'! Still swearing in front of me, I don't know what to do. Can I still trust him?

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

Hello. A man's infidelity is mostly caused by a lack of something in the marriage. Between the lines, you reveal your excellence, excellence can make money. In life, you take care of him meticulously. However, such a virtuous person has cheated on him, and from any perspective, it makes people feel aggrieved. There are reasons why men cheat. He wrote a guarantee and even took a vow, which may indicate that he has a heart of regret.

Don't rush to forgive him first, communicate well with him, and ensure that no matter how well you write, it doesn't mean anything. Mainly depends on his attitude. Time can prove his inner self. If he is willing to sincerely repent, you can give him another chance. From your account, it can also be seen that you do not want the entanglement of divorce. Continue to maintain economic independence and, if capable, avoid the fear of divorce. To know how to love oneself and protect oneself.