Post Date December, 03 2023
She is empathetic and understands your dreams and persistence; She is gentle and amiable, listening to your confidences and frustrations; She has a pure orchid heart, giving you hope and comfort. She is not a wife gossiping by the bedside, nor is she a sentimental lover, but you have a soulful exchange of hearts and a quick connection of hearts. She is known as the "confidant of beauty" by the world.
This is a word that comes from "collocation". Red face, originally referring to the blush color on the cheeks of young people, later extended to beauty. A confidant is a friend who knows each other and has a deep affection for each other.
Wang Yuru, the president of the Shanghai Psychological Industry Association, pointed out in an interview with a reporter from Life Times that in feudal society, the role of beauties was mostly played by women of the world. They were good at language and communication, and were hesitant and did not demand things that could not be obtained, but understood men's thoughts. Nowadays, many people hope to have confidantes and beauties, which is also in line with the trend of social development. People have gone through an era of sexual confinement where men and women are not close, an era of economic and cultural openness, and after encountering the impact of rampant sexual culture, their mentality becomes more relaxed and they gradually tend to engage in spiritual communication in sexual relationships. At this time, a feeling that is less than love and more than friendship has emerged. Just like a hungry person who is full of food After all day, just as people pursue the quality of food, their emotional demands tend to be more focused on their inner feelings due to sexual satisfaction
In addition, in modern society, competition is fierce and life pressure is high, especially for men who work hard outside, and the hardships and sorrows are not enough for outsiders. Therefore, they often yearn for spiritual comfort and also need the support and encouragement of someone who knows them well. Wang Yuru said, "Vanity makes most men want to enjoy the closeness and care of another woman besides their wife. This unique attraction and appropriate sense of distance make men feel more relaxed and comfortable in relationships than their wives or male friends, invisibly strengthening communication
However, in interviews, experts have stated that it is difficult for today's beauties to become confidants. Most of them are just superficial, but in reality, they are cheating on each other as lovers. This is a case of mishandling, causing a pure relationship to deteriorate, and ultimately endangering a failed marriage. There are two reasons for this: firstly, modern people are more selfish and emphasize "possession", unwilling to share things with others, let alone being a living person. Secondly, people's life pressure is increasing, and their resistance to temptation is correspondingly reduced. In addition, many people have a natural tendency to take risks, which can accidentally pierce the fragile window paper between lovers and confidants. The most important and difficult thing to be a confidant of beauty is to abide by boundaries, "Wang Yuru pointed out.
Pan Suiming, the director of the Institute of Sexual Sociology at Renmin University of China, believes that for a man, having a friendly and intimate friend who happens to be a woman and looks quite pleasing to the eye is also a blessing. As long as you have a clear conscience, you can socialize with other close friends in a grand manner, without the need to deliberately define within which range of emotions. Of course, it would be even more perfect to introduce her to her wife and make her the spiritual confidant of both husband and wife. For both a confidant and wife, it is a form of respect.
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)
