Post Date December, 03 2023
Some people say that being jealous is normal because love is exclusive; Some people want their spouse to eat a little vinegar, and they feel satisfied psychologically; Some people have conflicts and divorces because of jealousy... Is it men who are jealous or women who are jealous?
Love wedged into the soul
● Liu Weini
Object of jealousy: unspecified
The nicknames "vinegar jar" and "vinegar jar" are widely used by women and seem to have become the proper nouns for women.
Could it be that a man is a man who is not naturally jealous?
In fact, there are many men who are jealous, although this is not the mainstream. There is nothing wrong with being jealous in itself. People often say "seven emotions and six desires". I wonder if there is also a component of being jealous in it?
Being jealous is a normal psychological reaction and a different manifestation of love and concern. Subconsciously, it is a protection of emotional exclusivity and fear of loss. In love or marriage, if two people turn a blind eye to each other and do not eat any vinegar, love becomes insipid. Eating vinegar once in a while may create a vast world for ordinary and trivial life. However, if the vinegar is too strong, it may be too much.
Everyone should be familiar with Wu Sangui, who is a jealous expert. Chen Yuanyuan and Li Zicheng, a farmer, were so jealous that he even led the Qing army into Shanhaiguan to fight against their romantic enemies, thus rewriting Chinese history. Wu Sangui himself was a dissolute general, and he was good at fighting. He just ate vinegar without killing himself, and ended up with a lasting legacy. Men are too jealous. According to modern medical analysis, they belong to paranoid personality disorders. This type of person is characterized by stubbornness, suspicion, narrow-mindedness, jealousy, and excessive sensitivity to setbacks.
On the topic of jealousy, Sartre and Beauvoir are good blueprints. Sartre is a philanderer, who was the first to come out of the wall. At first, Beauvoir felt very painful for this, because after all, women have always been more disturbed and tortured by emotional matters than men. If she wants to escape from the ethical dilemma, she cannot completely and completely, and there are always many unhappiness, grievances, sadness, and resentment. Gradually, Beauvoir adapted. Who can separate her from Sartre? It was Sartre who awakened all her spirit, soul, and body. The harmony of their minds and souls, as well as the perfect attraction of their flesh, were unparalleled. They know that there is no substitute for each other, and after a lifetime of companionship, they do not achieve a pure world of two until their later years. Sartre's relationship with other women is transient, while Sartre's relationship with Beauvoir is eternal. Because cherishing and caring about eternity, we don't care about the insignificant moment.
However, how many couples in life can be like Sartre and Beauvoir? Their extraordinary detachment is beyond the reach of ordinary people. In fact, the problem is not whether we have a tolerant heart, but rather our lack of love that is wedged into the soul.
Who can go with whom!
Ning Tongtong
Jealous targets: male supervisors, ex boyfriends
My wife worked overtime for several days in a row, and when she got up in the morning, her eyes became dark. In the morning, I asked my female colleague, "What eye cream can improve dark circles under the eyes?"? Female colleague smiled: Buy it for your wife? Very exemplary.
Before work, I took out 1000 yuan from a locked drawer, which is a fifth of my small vault. Without hesitation, I entered the Saite Commercial Building and headed directly to the cosmetics counter. I said to the salesperson, "We need to remove black circles under our eyes.". The salesperson brought me a small bottle with a price tag of 880. I was ruthless and bought it.
As soon as I entered the door, I rushed straight to the kitchen without taking a sip of water. Today, I made a hearty dinner for my wife to make up for it.
Finally, I heard a knock on the door that made me feel secure. I quickly wiped the oil off my hands and opened the door. "I was about to surprise her with my eye cream, but she grabbed the lead and said, 'We said a word that really moved me.'". I was a bit upset and asked her, "What did you say?"? She said, "The boss said we should hurry home and cook for his wife, otherwise her food will not taste good. Our boss is so kind to his wife.".
"I got angry and shouted at her, 'Hello, you guys, come with him.'".
That night, I made a mistake with my wife: I shouldn't have gotten angry, but you know, I can't stand you saying other men are good.
My wife didn't speak, but I can see that she won't be angry with me about this.
Conversion between acid and sweet
Tangtang
It is said that women are jealous, but so are men. It's just that the way you're jealous is different, and the external performance is also very different. Being jealous at the right time for a woman is both adorable and charming, so it can be made public. "Even if it's done, it won't attract too much criticism.". Men are different. For them, tolerance and magnanimity should be their true colors, and they also represent their hearts. If they express themselves too much, they will be criticized and their image will be greatly reduced. Therefore, they have to hide and express their concerns in a seemingly understatement manner. However, the sour feelings will still emerge inadvertently, small and subtle, but also make the hearts of women who love him sweet.
When I was a teenager, I had a boyfriend who was very caring and considerate to me. I just saw me with other boys and it would be "cloudy on a sunny day." But he never said anything, so I stayed the same. Until one day, he asked his friend to tell me that he was very psychologically uncomfortable. And I listened and was secretly pleased. Now that I want to come, this is a man. Even at a young age like him, he also cares about his face and refuses to directly express his jealousy. "But after all, he is young, and his" sunny days are cloudy, "his trusted friend told him, still showing his lack of worldly wisdom.".
Mature men are very different. They are better at hiding. My current boyfriend is such a person. I remember telling my boyfriend that someone proposed to me, and he listened with a smile, seemingly confident and determined, without any strange expression. After a while, my boyfriend and I went to find a place to eat together. When I arrived, I suddenly realized that this was not a "new scene", but just an old place. I shouted, "Here, we've been here to eat!" "No, I haven't been here before. You probably came with someone else, right?" My boyfriend said lightly as he walked in, "Did you come with the person who proposed to you?" He smiled and tugged at his lips, Then he leered at me with an unfathomable gaze. I was stunned - he had already remembered it in his heart. Not asking doesn't mean he doesn't care, but it just takes the appropriate time to tell you he cares. "Mature as he is, introverted as he is, it turns out to be the same. I can't help but chuckle and stare at him. He seems a bit shy, too. He smiled sheepishly and quickly turned away, saying, 'Let's go, then you can eat again, and the feeling of eating and eating is also different.' At that moment, I suddenly realized that a mature man can also be cute, and this cute comes from his implicit jealousy.", The slight acidity has turned into sweetness in the heart under certain circumstances. "We had a great meal that day, but I don't remember what it was like last time I came.".
