Post Date December, 03 2023
I have personal feelings and need the help of my teacher. I am a woman with family and children. My husband is too bad-tempered and often beats me. Later, I met a man who was five years younger than me. He was a divorced man. I liked him. I wanted to divorce, but my family didn't agree. I was also a single parent family. I was very upset. But he never urged me to divorce. I felt that it was unfair to him, but I was afraid of a generation gap in the future. What should I do? Please help me. thank you.
reply:
Hello, the marriage is not happy. We need to examine and reflect on it in many ways. What is the reason for your husband's bad temper hitting you? You need to reflect carefully to find out whether it is his problem or your problem? Of course, no matter what, men should not beat people at home, but you need to find the root cause to solve the problem. It is really inappropriate and inappropriate to expect to seek comfort from other men outside marriage because there are problems in marriage. This is undoubtedly self-indulgent and touching the moral red line.
If you can't bear the abuse of your husband, you can ask for legal aid or choose to leave him. This is your right and obligation, rather than seeking comfort from other men under the condition of marriage. This is against social order and good customs. You should know this well.
WeChat letter:
Why can't I meet a man who treats me sincerely? Brother Shan, my first marriage should be for the sake of marriage. At that time, I was relatively young. When I went to school in other places, he fell in love with others. At that time, I struggled, suffered, and finally left. After the age of 40, he reluctantly married a retired worker. He didn't want to say goodbye, but only asked for others. After three years, we suddenly said that his daughter said we were not the same people. A month later, we went through the divorce procedure.
Now sometimes I also think that I have a good job, and I am also good at it. I also have a deep feeling for my family. Although I am busy with my work, I am still very attentive when I come home. Why on earth?
reply:
Hello, many times, people will fall into the misconception of feeling good about themselves. Because they can't see their own shortcomings, they will always feel that it is the other party's problem. In fact, it's not that you can't meet the person who treats you sincerely, but that you don't give your heart completely. If you treat each other sincerely enough, the other party will certainly give back to you.
Also, when choosing a marriage, you must choose the right person. Don't think about this person first, but consider whether it is suitable to be with the other person. Suitability is the most important. Women should marry people who really understand you and love you, instead of forcing themselves to make ends meet with a person.
