After the flash marriage, I found that my husband had no sense of family responsibility, which made me feel extremely tortured

My husband and I met on a blind date, belonging to a flash marriage. He was spoiled by his parents since childhood. He was lazy, not enterprising, not seeking advancement, and knew to ask his parents if he had no money. He also loved gambling and surfing the Internet. "Before, we were married in a flash, so I didn't know about him. When the wedding day was set, and I was pregnant, I didn't want to get married. It was too late.".

"I thought he would change after getting married, but I was wrong. He doesn't care about anything like not getting married, doesn't care when his son is born, and when he gets sick, I'm the one who runs around to see him.". At that time, my mother-in-law was also not good to me. Their family treated me like a nanny and had to do everything, but they still said I was not good.

"Every time I go back to my mother's house, they say I don't seem to have a husband. If it weren't for a son, they would say I haven't married yet.". "We often argue, too. Once, because of our son, he even hit me. At that time, his parents didn't say a word.".

Anyway, after five years of living like this, I filed for a divorce and went out of the house clean. Three years later, he and his mother, village cadres came to my home to find me, hoping I could remarry. At that time, what he said was very pleasant. He asked me to come back, and I also thought that he would always change this time. Therefore, I chose to come back for my son, because I myself was also divorced by my parents since childhood, so I don't want my son to be the same as me.

"When he first came back, he was fine and changed, but this situation didn't last long, and he showed his true colors. He still gambled and surfed the internet, regardless of anything at home.". "His parents don't say anything about him either, they just say that mine is not good and that I can't manage him well.". He has no money to ask his mother for it, and his mother will tell me what I am not. This year, he went even further. He didn't go to work, stayed at home every day, and gambled at night. "I've talked to him several times, but he just doesn't like me anymore, doesn't talk to me, and just plays with his mobile phone while lying in bed, ignoring me at all.".

"I regret having chosen to remarry and come back. I want to divorce again, but my son is 10 years old and already sensible. He has clearly stated that he doesn't want me to leave anymore, but my life is really unbearable, it's just suffering. I can't endure it anymore, Brother Shan. What do you think I should do?"? "Even if he were slightly responsible for me and the family, I wouldn't have this idea.".

reply:

I don't know why many young people nowadays like flash marriage, whether it's to keep up with the fashion, or whether they hate it too much, or are they afraid that their other half will be taken away by others, or are they overwhelmed by love on the spur of the moment? In short, it's urgent. In fact, choosing a life partner and entering a marriage is precisely not something to be anxious about. As the saying goes, hot tofu cannot be eaten in a hurry. Regardless of whether you are younger or older, you should maintain a sense of sobriety in the face of marriage and love, learn to enjoy the process that should be there, and follow a natural path rather than rushing to succeed. Don't marry for the sake of marriage. The purpose of choosing marriage is to achieve happiness and a good destination, rather than fulfilling a superficial form and completing a task. Therefore, there is no need to make yourself too abrupt and rash in choosing between marriage and love.

As for you, because you chose flash marriage, you didn't know enough about your marriage partner before marriage, resulting in all the problems that followed after marriage. It can be seen that the reason for your flash marriage may be due to the fact that you got married with a child because you accidentally became pregnant. This also involves the sensitive issue of premarital self-discipline. Accompanied by social inclusiveness and a diverse sense of self, young people nowadays have a very open mind about gender relations and are more bold in doing things. Nowadays, there are not a few cases of premarital sexual relations, choosing to cohabit, having a pregnancy before marriage, and having an abortion. Many people have become accustomed to this and take it lightly. Little does it know that it is often women who are ultimately hurt. Therefore, as a female friend, you should learn to cherish yourself and protect yourself. Don't forget yourself because you can't help yourself for a moment, and eventually you will suffer.

Let's continue to talk about you. According to your statement, because you found yourself pregnant, you had to force your head to get married. This is also unreasonable. Anyone who is prescribed to be pregnant must get married. If you believe that the other person has a problem and is not suitable for entering a marriage with yourself, you can choose to refuse. If the child is too old, let's not have an abortion. Although abortion is a cruel thing, But you can't even jump into the fire pit knowing that entering a marriage with your partner is a mistake!

To put it bluntly, in fact, you still have a fluke mentality in your heart. You don't have a clear concept of right and wrong in your heart, and you don't have your own bottom line and principles. In short, you are confused. It is precisely because of this that you have today plunged yourself into marital difficulties and made yourself suffer. Originally, you had made the right choice during your marriage mistake, choosing to divorce him and escape from the bitter sea, but after a few years, you were again deceived by him and his family. Who can blame you? Is it not self seeking to have such a result today? If you don't open your eyes and choose the right person before marriage, it's already a big mistake in your life; If you choose to remarry with this person again, you are willing to make it happen to yourself. I know that women are very kind and soft hearted, but the premise of being kind and soft hearted is to carefully examine the object in front of you and whether it is worth doing so.

Turning back to your husband, as far as he is concerned, he may be the kind of person a dog can't change, because it turns out that he has no sign of repentance. After experiencing your marriage, he still continues to engage in his bad habits and habits, and does not know how to fulfill his obligations and family responsibilities. He may have been like this all his life. What can you do with him?

Therefore, in the end, there are two choices: for the sake of the child and for the sake of having a complete family, or to choose to endure, fulfill each other, and suffer yourself; Either look at everything, live for yourself, and choose to part ways with him again. Respect the truth in your heart. After decades of life, don't try too hard and hurt yourself. I hope you can make a correct choice that belongs to you!