After ten years of hard work in marriage, my husband cheated again after having a baby for two months

My husband and I have been together for nearly ten years, and our relationship is very weak and there is no romance to talk about. When he got married, his parents were unwilling and thought he was poor and lacking ambition. Under my stubbornness, my family had to let go. He is very obedient and obedient, and after a few words, I became obedient. The wedding was very simple, with several tables set up and a few family and friends invited to rush through the matter. On the day of my wedding, my mother cried and told me to take good care of myself, which moved me to tears.

I firmly believe that we will grow old together. He gave me a promise to take care of me for a lifetime, and I firmly remember it in my heart. Not long after my eldest daughter was born, I discovered that he had cheated. At that time, my heart was shattered and I was rational enough to break up with him. I moved out of that house and handed over my daughter to my mother. I carried my backpack to work in first tier cities. We have been procrastinating on the matter of divorce. Firstly, he is unwilling, and secondly, my parents dislike my child for being young and let me give him a chance. I spend time healing the wounds of betrayal, working in a different place, and my daughter is my only hope.

When my daughter was two years old, my mother anxiously called me and said that my husband had been arrested for something. I couldn't express my sadness upon hearing this news. I cleaned up briefly and returned to the long lost family with a heavy heart. I went to see my husband, and he looked a lot haggard. His eyes were also cold and he didn't say a word to me. I thought our relationship had come to an end, and it was time to divorce. I calmly proposed a divorce to him again. He didn't speak, just silently shed tears, and finally asked me to give him a month's time.

A month later, I received a phone call from him, and he told me a lot of emotional things. I listened while crying. I have been hating him for the past two years, hating him for cheating, hating him for betraying his oath. In the past two years, I have come to understand a lot that marriage is not just a family affair, it requires careful management. I accepted him again and he came out with me to work hard. We rented a larger house and brought our child and mother-in-law to live together.

After a few years of mediocre marriage and the implementation of the two child policy, we have another child. This is my second month of pregnancy. I thought the four of us would be very happy, but he has revealed his true colors again. I saw the chat records between him and a third party on his WeChat account, as well as the "three point" photos sent to him by the third party. Having been betrayed twice, my heart was torn like a knife. Unexpectedly, after ten years, he has regained the same moral character as when he first got married. But I haven't had the courage to "say go" back then, and I haven't had a showdown with him yet. I was pregnant and couldn't bear to be angry, but when I saw him angry, I couldn't handle it. He argued every now and then, and his attitude towards me became colder and colder. Why don't I go home and live now? What should I do?

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

His first infidelity was when he first got married, and his immaturity set him on a bad path. You directly proposed a divorce because you are young, don't have so much to worry about, and your heart is still hard. Ten years have passed now, and your heart has integrated into this family. As your children grow up day by day, you are missing more and more people and things. This caused him to cheat twice, but you dare not show your hand.

Attitude towards marriage is very important, and one cannot make do with it. You are now pregnant with a second child, and you can swallow your anger. What about your child? The older the child's month, the more he can't turn back. What should you do? Sometimes the changes in emotions come from the superposition of time. Ten years of marriage is not easy. It is recommended to have a calm discussion. If he has a bad attitude and is stubborn, don't linger, collect evidence from him, and strive for your maximum rights.