Post Date December, 02 2023
Hello, I also have emotional confusion. I am different from others. My husband and I do business at home. We often quarrel because of busy business together. He doesn't understand my hard work at all. I really need someone to care about me silently and understand me.
In this way, I met a man near us. My husband can't give me care and sympathy. He has given me everything. Slowly, we have nothing to talk about. But recently, my husband often comes out to play games and doesn't accompany me at all. In this way, I think more of his kindness to me. His wife is not around him. He is empty and lonely. He asks me out, but we are both generous and think about our family.
But I just can't get out of this feeling. I want to keep this state, but I'm afraid that one day my family will know. Sometimes, I think of it myself, but my mother-in-law won't let me. The more I think about it, the more I think about it, like a period of treason. Of course, it is not my mother-in-law who knows my secrets, but I have paid too much to her family and don't want to lose me. I am a famous good wife near our house, so I have been upset recently. Don't know what to do?
reply:
1. Many times, we don't know the purpose and significance of making money and fighting hard, so we lose our way in this busy and chasing. The purpose of doing business is to make money, of course, to make money is to make life better. However, looking back at your current situation, the husband and wife have been complaining constantly and contradicting each other because of their involvement in business, and even turned into enemies. Isn't it not worth the loss? Is this business very uneconomical? Whether the business is good or bad, it can't affect the relationship between husband and wife because of it, otherwise the business will have no meaning.
2. Understand your mood at the moment, but do not support your approach. It is undeniable that people are emotional animals, but it is more important for people to learn to control their feelings, rather than indulge and squander their feelings. There is also the need to face up to problems and not avoid them. There are contradictions and disputes between you and your husband. After that, you should know how to reflect and find solutions, rather than seek consolation outside the compensation psychology. When people are facing a sad and sad situation, they really need a short adjustment. During this period, they must grasp their own discretion and do not lose the bottom line and dignity. My husband doesn't understand you and understands you. You need to tell your grievance in a proper way. Don't hold it in your heart under the control of anger, or just burst out, which can only destroy the marriage.
3. You should know that no matter how good other men are, they are others', and they do not belong to you. Even if they can meet your emotional needs and satisfy your momentary desire, this kind of superficial "heart has a sense" often has a certain illusion, which may not be your true feelings. For this reason, please don't sink yourself too deep, otherwise it is easy to brush the gun and get into trouble, resulting in extramarital affairs, and even make the marriage doomed.
4. Since you are known as a good Chinese daughter-in-law in your local area, you should know how to maintain your rare good image and not easily change the good impression of others on you. At this point, you should understand that your reputation may be destroyed by your transformation into a junior at any time. Therefore, if you want to continue your reputation and save your marriage, you need to work hard to muster up courage, stick to the bottom line of your heart, adhere to the rules of life, learn the way of husband and wife management, improve the wisdom of marriage management, raise your own mind, understand the other party's difficulties, more tolerance and understanding, less complaint and complaint, strengthen good communication, and find the point of contradiction, presumably, Through hard work, we will be able to turn war into friendship and bring the couple back together.
