After my wife had an uneasy relationship with my male client, she gave me a shameless statement and immediately decided to divorce

I divorced my wife, who has been married for 18 years, on the eighth day of the first month of this year, my first day at work! We have a lovely son, I love him very much, he is also very obedient, but now I am very confused, do not know how to live in the future as well! Brother Shan, I got married with my wife in 1999 after being introduced by a matchmaker for six months. I was in 1973, and she was in 1998. After getting married, the couple have been quarrelling, and the relationship between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has never been better. However, even after the quarrel, it has not reached the point of divorce.

"Because there are several storefronts in my family, my wife married me and never went out to work. She only worked for two years in total, working in the supermarket and helping me with my store at home, but she was very fascinated with playing cards.". Over the past ten years, she has been arguing with me about playing cards, and during this period, she has made numerous verbal and written promises, ups and downs. In 2009, I built a new house in the same place as my old house. Due to the incomplete procedures, I moved to a new house after three years.

I thought life was getting better and there would be fewer fights. However, one day after moving to my new home, I checked her QQ chat records and saw that she and her online friends had gone to open a house. At that time, I felt that the sky was falling, so I called her fiercely and nobody answered. I called back in about an hour. "I said at the time, 'I know where you are doing something, come back quickly. Later, when she came back, she didn't deny my judgment, admitted it, and said there wouldn't be another time.'".

After a painful week of reflection, I lay alone on the sofa every night and decided to forgive her for the sake of my family and children. To be honest, I couldn't get rid of this shadow in my heart, so I just lived on like this. Since then, to be honest, I have also intentionally come out to play. Originally, I have never had much contact with the outside world, and I only know how to keep the shop and do things every day. She has also resumed her normal daily life, playing cards, shopping, beauty salons, and after more than two years of peace, I have also lost contact with that online friend.

However, at the end of October last year, she fell in love with one of my clients again and opened a house many times. During the process, I just doubted and finally chose to believe that if she didn't come back one night, she would say she was staying at her parents' house. Finally, on New Year's Day, when I went to her house for dinner, I learned from her little niece that she didn't live at her mother's house at all. Suddenly, my head exploded and I understood everything. Immediately, I called my son and her home. After returning home, she didn't admit it at all, but I saw it in my eyes and my heart was clear. I passed the New Year in a daze.

On the evening of the first day of the year, I checked her phone list and found it clear at a glance that they had been chatting with each other for more than four months. If I asked her again, I would have done it all. That man is rich and about fifty years old. I say he's not good. Aren't we having a good time? She said she couldn't forget the feeling of intimacy with him, and immediately, I decided to divorce. "For seven days, I lived like a year. On the eighth day of the year, I applied for a divorce certificate, but she decided not to leave home in the name of taking care of her son. Because my son is in the second year of high school and will graduate next year, neither my family nor the people around me know that we are divorced.". "If it were punctured, she would definitely not be able to stay here anymore, but the child would definitely be affected!"!

"For the sake of the child, I am still enduring it, because when I see her, I will think of the scene where she is with that man, and my heart is very uncomfortable.". Also, Brother Shan, when she had a crowded room with that man, it was just when I found out that I had diabetes. At that time, I was worried about my illness and couldn't sleep every day. My body had shrunk from 132 kg to more than 100 kg. She didn't care about my illness at all, and accompanied me to the hospital for inspection!

Brother Shan, I am very unwilling. For the sake of this family, I can not let her go out to work and put all the responsibilities of the family on my shoulders. How could she be so cruel! Now that I am divorced and still unwilling to go out, what should I do to avoid hurting my son who is preparing for the college entrance exam? Would you please give me some advice during your busy schedule? I will definitely listen to you! thank you! I can't write many events and details in the text for the moment. If you need me to ask you and answer you without reservation, okay, Brother Shan! Please forgive me for any interruptions made in the evening!

reply:

1. Many times, a woman makes a shocking act, sometimes an impulse, sometimes unable to withstand temptation, but sometimes, it is also often the result of dissatisfaction with the status quo of marriage. As for your confidences, you said that you have been quarreling since your marriage, and the relationship between your wife and mother-in-law is also not good. In this situation, you cannot feel the happiness of your marriage, so does your wife. "Over the long term, you won't be confused about what your relationship will be like.". Ultimately, the contradictions and discord between husband and wife become the conventional fuse for quantitative to qualitative change. To do this, you need to reflect on your lack of role in marriage and your lack of self responsibility.

2. No matter what the conditions at home are, you shouldn't let your daughter-in-law relax. You have made another mistake on this issue. You should know that people cannot be idle, and idle will lead to accidents. The so-called appetite for food, clothing, and lust. Do you think your wife doesn't work? Does she ever stay honest at home? She's been idle and bored all day. Why not play cards? How can she kill her emptiness without dating online friends? All this, in fact, has something to do with your indulgence towards her.

3. When it comes to laissez-faire, when your wife opens a house with a male netizen, you easily choose to forgive, and if you don't let her pay a high price for her dirty behavior, she will definitely find it difficult to give up. The key is that after she is like this, if you still let her live such a leisure life at home, she will continue to be lonely and empty, live impetuously, and seek enjoyment. Why don't you let her find a job that drains her extra energy and allows her to accept a healthier living environment?

4. Finally, she relapsed and got involved with your male client. In this regard, you chose to divorce is very correct, if we continue to compromise, we are still a man? Wearing a green hat once is enough fun. What else? One can make mistakes, but one cannot repeat the old tricks by repeatedly prohibiting them. For this reason, you must work hard this time and stop giving her the chance to revive. As for the child who is worried about going to the second year of senior high school, this can understand your feelings. Anyway, the divorce certificate has already been handled, and you have made a private agreement with her. Now, for the sake of the child, you can temporarily divorce without leaving home. However, when the child finishes the college entrance exam, you should leave me alone and show that you do not leave any room for her to forgive, and do not let her continue to feel lucky.

5. Since I have lusted for such a woman and have lived more than half of my life, let's take it seriously. This woman is really not worth cherishing. Although she is spoiled by you, she is not used to it. So, put more energy and enthusiasm into your children and fulfill your responsibilities as a father. You have already become a failed husband once, and don't let yourself become a failed father again. At the same time, learn to reflect on your own shortcomings rather than just complaining about how unbearable the other person is. Therefore, it is also possible to open a new turning point for your happiness in the second half of your life.