After five years of marriage, my stomach didn't move. My husband deliberately snubbed me and openly flirted with women

When we first got married, we always chose contraception. Our career is unstable and we can't give our children a good life. The plan can't keep up with the change. I failed to use contraception and became pregnant. I was surprised and pleased that my bones and flesh were in my stomach, and I couldn't bear to take them off. I kept tangled. Finally, I checked the men and women during the examination, in order to prepare clothes for the children and so on. The result was a girl.

My husband didn't have any expression on his face, especially his mother-in-law. She gave me a look. Later I found out that they wanted a boy. In a fit of anger, I had an abortion operation. Since you don't want to see my child, I won't give you a baby. I regretted the moment the child came out. In order to get angry for a moment, I hurt my child. When I returned home, I was accused by the whole family, saying that I had a lot of heart and evil heart.

After the child fell, my heart followed her and shut myself in the room for reflection. Sometimes I sleep very shallow at night, and dream of my child, holding out my little hand to let me pull him, but I can't reach her, my mood is extremely heavy, and my mental state is not good. Because it is too depressing, after five years of marriage, my stomach has been slow to move. I went to the hospital for examination. The doctor said that the first miscarriage was not well rested. In addition, it was caused by too much pressure at ordinary times, which made me relax.

I told my husband what the doctor said, but he said I made it myself. No wonder others. I was very cold after hearing that. He became more and more indifferent to me. I didn't want to enter that house. Now, he is looking for women outside and makes no secret in front of me. When I answer a woman's phone, I eat alone with a woman and go shopping. It's no use trying hard or hard. I confided to my mother-in-law at the end of the atmosphere. As a result, my mother-in-law said to me, "How can you keep a man's heart if you don't have enough stomach?"

Suddenly I feel my life is so bitter. Marrying such a man to be my husband is a lifelong sorrow. In his eyes, only when I have children can I decide my position in this family? I put forward a divorce in pain, but he didn't trust me at all. He tore up my divorce agreement and said that he wanted to share his property with me through divorce.

We used to have such a harmonious relationship, but now it's like this. I'm really sad. My mother-in-law treats me as a tool for giving birth to children, and my husband is so abusive. What should I do?

Reply from the consultant:

Marriage is a seesaw battle. If you concede too much, the other party will gain an inch. Because you lost your first child, you became inferiority complex and unhappy. Therefore, when you later became pregnant because of miscarriage, this undoubtedly brought a fatal blow to your marriage. He mocked you, excluded you, and just showed dissatisfaction with your behavior.

Now he used cheating to vent his desire and became so unbearable. He was still worried about the abortion that year, but he didn't look for mistakes from himself, because he preferred sons over daughters, which caused you to lose your children in anger. His constant revenge on you caused your marriage to disintegrate a little. Divorce was brought forward by you, but he dragged you down for the division of property.

So now you should think clearly, if you really don't want to save your marriage, then take legal measures to protect your legal rights and interests. Give yourself confidence and wish you happiness.