Post Date December, 03 2023
Newly married couples can't wait to stick together 24 hours a day, but as the days go by, more and more couples become less intimate and show less concern for each other. As the saying goes, "The Seven Year Itch" means that couples who have been married for more than seven years will experience apathy. What is the reason for this? In fact, the coldness between couples is all caused by details. There is a saying that "details defeat love". Only by controlling the details below can the relationship maintain a constant temperature.
Intimacy
The Japan Wife Lovers Association has launched a 'Hug Wife Plan', which requires husbands to give their wives several hugs every day, including a 'regular hug' when going out, a 'waiting for the opportunity hug' when waiting for the car or traffic lights, a hug from behind, and a warm hug that snuggles tightly around their waist.
Speak love words to the other party
I believe many couples have not achieved this. Research has shown that couples need to say at least three love words every day, such as' I love you 'and' I miss you '. A study from Houston State University in the United States also found that sweet words spoken in the left ear of a loved one are more likely to impress them.
Sense of humor
Having a sense of humor in life can promote the improvement of quality of life, and it is the same after marriage. Humor can resolve and buffer conflicts, and eliminate barriers. Humor contains a lot of information: love your wife, cheer her up, praise her. The wife received this information and her mood naturally turned cloudy and sunny.
Appreciation of the other half
Chinese people generally adopt a praising and appreciative attitude towards their children, but they are accustomed to looking at their spouses with a critical eye. There are many reasons for this, but in the long run, it can hurt relationships and disrupt marital stability. Everyone hopes to receive praise, and the more praise they receive, the more it motivates them to perform well. So, it's worth mentioning your appreciation for your partner.
Romance
Romance is indispensable no matter how many years after your marriage. Romance is not necessarily about flowers and wine, it must come at the cost of money. Its forms are rich and colorful, and its main connotation is' doing what he/she likes for his/her partner '. For example, if a wife likes to watch movies and a husband can patiently accompany her through them, it is romantic; When the husband came home from night shift, the wife waited with the bedroom light on and served a bowl of hot Congee, which was also romantic.
Communication
Communication can gradually bring about harmony between previously disharmonious couples, and it has an indelible impact on the maintenance of marital life. Huang Weiren, a professor at Northwestern University School of Medicine and known as the 'Doctor of Love', pointed out that the primary task of marital happiness is to learn communication and conflict resolution To enhance the effectiveness of communication, on the one hand, praise should be used instead of criticism, especially personal attacks, and on the other hand, degree modifiers such as frequent, always, and too should be used less.
Experts point out that preserving a bit of innocence and innocence, possessing a bit of hobbies and curiosity, is important for enhancing marital happiness. People with a childlike innocence lead easier lives, happier moods, and are better at discovering interesting things in life. After returning home, as soon as the door closes, the couple can learn to be children, often play small games, and joke with each other, all of which can regulate the dull and monotonous life.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
