Post Date December, 03 2023
At present, the large-scale medical drama "Heart Technique" starring Wu Xiubo, Hai Qing, Zhang Jiayi, and others is currently on the air. In the drama, Huo Simiao, who was originally a "buddy", gradually developed feelings with Meixiaohu through their work interactions. Meixiaohu went to the Wenchuan earthquake site to support rescue efforts. Huo Simiao was in the hospital, but her thoughts had already flown to Meixiaohu's side. During this period, he also decorated her newly purchased house. Some viewers exclaimed 'can't bear' their ambiguity. With the continuous progress of male and female relationships, the phenomenon of buddies becoming lovers often occurs. Can this be a positive result? How should women face it?
Men in the eyes of women:
I have seen a metaphor: some people compare a woman's circle of opposite sex friends to the Fifth Ring Road in Beijing. Some are used to express their feelings, some are "firefighters", some are as office workers, and some are super consultants in the workplace.
Garbage can: Pouring out one's heart to "buddies" allows women to open up and not worry about their secrets being leaked, allowing tears to flow. They can pour out emotional frustration and inner distress like pouring beans out of a bamboo tube. Sometimes, you can even lie on the shoulders of your "buddies" and act coquettishly to find some comfort for yourself. Even if you look embarrassed, you are not afraid of their jokes.
Handyman: The toilet in the rental room is out of service, the computer at home is on strike, the power socket is short circuited, bulk items are being transported, train tickets are being purchased for home during the Chinese New Year, and the heel of the shoe is broken while walking... At this time, "buddies" can be moved out to save the scene, in a timely and fast manner, as strong as Popeye, and as wise as Sun Wukong.
Workplace consultant: The workplace is like a quagmire, and people who venture in the quagmire are inevitably attacked. Being in the workplace, facing reprimands from superiors, being worn small shoes by colleagues, making mistakes in work, facing bottlenecks in promotion, and encountering lascivious clients, women are prone to suffering injustice and losing their rationality, and may even fall into traps set by others. And 'buddies' can effectively help you analyze the situation, identify problems, come up with solutions and face to face solutions, and also improve women's ability to handle problems.
Rich social networks of "male friends": In the fast-paced and high-pressure era, both unmarried and married women are increasingly in need of the assistance of "brothers", giving them the strength to move forward and the confidence to move forward. Even eating and drinking with "buddies" is a way to relieve stress. Add a few more "buddies" and you will find your social network more secure.
The 'female brothers' in the eyes of men:
In the world of men, "girlfriends" are often more capable, outspoken, and have a much simpler relationship than girlfriends. Men don't have to scratch their heads over trivial matters or rack their brains all day to make them happy. On the contrary, 'girlfriends' can help men share their worries and doubts, serve as a good helper in life, a shield for meals, a health supervisor, and so on. In a popular saying,' With a sister covering up, don't worry! '
Psychological counselor: Due to physiological differences, men often close their hearts when encountering emotional confusion and do not like to actively confide in the outside world. As' girlfriends', we can help them find the reason, because women understand women's hearts the most. No matter how they pursue or please girls, 'girlfriends' can provide the best tricks. Even if he encounters a breakup, his "girlfriends" can use their tenderness and wisdom to help him establish his beliefs and possess the heroic spirit of "starting over again if it's a big deal".
Dinner shield: Dinner is a man's second social arena. Whether it's a workplace meal or a friend's meal, drinking heavily, discussing business matters, and maintaining relationships are commonplace, and some men find it difficult to control. In this regard, "female friends" can use their gender advantages to help them turn embarrassment into invisibility, and turn natural obstacles into a smooth path. They can not only win face for them, but also successfully solve problems. They also have a bit of the cuteness of the world, making men unable to help but return to the passionate world of the Water Margin.
Health supervisor: Most men do not pay attention to their physical health, especially in today's "man=difficult" world. Men are carrying strong pressure like snails, paying attention to their diet and sleep, reminding them to combine work and rest, taking time to exercise, and going to the hospital for physical examinations on time. These are the best gifts given to them.
Decorate social networks with "girlfriends": Most of them are casual, straightforward and generous. They either have an amazing drinking capacity, extensive connections, or are knowledgeable and capable, always bringing timely psychological counseling and intimate comfort to men, alleviating work and life pressure, and establishing firm courage and beliefs.
My Story with "Buddies":
Friends of the past, lovers of today
Hostess: Yawen, female, 29 years old, sales
At the beginning of this year, Yawen and Jia Ming walked onto the red carpet. She and Jia Ming were high school classmates who lived very close together. At that time, they were both class committee members and had a very harmonious relationship. They were buddies who talked about everything. Later, the two were admitted to the same university and although they were in different departments and classes, they still maintained a brotherly relationship. Jia Ming takes great care of her, helping her fetch water, deliver snacks, and even do homework on behalf of her roommates. Even though her roommates think he is Yawen's boyfriend, Yawen heartlessly explains, "We are hardcore friends!" Once, while playing volleyball in physical education class, Yawen accidentally broke her right leg and lay in a cast in the dormitory unable to move. Jia Ming delivers meals and bone soup three times a day until she recovers. Afterwards, Jia Ming asked his classmates to send her a love letter and formally confessed to her, "Be my girlfriend!" Yawen was both surprised and perplexed, and she sent a text message saying, "I will never forget your kindness to me until I die, but if I were to be your girlfriend, I would be missing a friend!" Jia Ming did not reply again, and the two of them still maintained the same pace as before.
After graduating from college, many sisters followed her boyfriend to work in other cities, and Yawen's parents also urged her to quickly find a boyfriend, otherwise she would take her on a blind date. For a period of time, Yawen lost more than three pounds due to her lack of appetite for tea and rice. After much thought, she felt that Jia Ming was the most suitable for her. When she didn't know how to speak to him, Jia Ming found her and said, "If you don't agree to my courtship again, I'll jump into the sea!" Yawen choked and said, "I can't miss it again this time!" After that, the two hugged tightly together. After marriage, they had a pleasant and enjoyable childhood without the aesthetic fatigue that others claimed. Yawen often jokingly said, "Brother becomes a couple, which is the perfect match for immortals! I have already figured out his shortcomings and hobbies, and even if he wants to get rid of me, it's not that easy
Loyal advice goes against the ear: Because having a long-term relationship with friends that is well known, it is easy to establish deep emotions, which is the foundation of the marriage building.
