Post Date December, 02 2023
When my wife and I met in 1979, our living standards were very low. At that time, we worked as workers in the same large state-owned enterprise. In early 1981, we ended more than a year of tumultuous love sprints and went through the marriage procedures. At the end of that year, our daughter was born.
My wife lost her father from a young age, and after my mother remarried, she lived with her sister and developed a playful and stubborn personality. I haven't learned much about these things before marriage, but they have led to a quiet and peaceful life where we rarely have a common language. However, life is still relatively happy.
After five or six years of marriage, life became easier, but our marriage became increasingly mundane. Apart from the topic of our daughter, there was almost no other in-depth communication between us. At this time, my wife fell in love with mahjong and spent most of her spare time at the card table. I have tried to persuade multiple times, but the results have been minimal. The contradiction accumulated day by day and finally broke out over a weekend.
That was in mid June 1998, when my daughter was about to face the college entrance examination. I was on a business trip from another city and hurried home. It was already late at night when I arrived home. My daughter was eating a bowl of soy sauce soaked rice alone, and there was nothing on the table. I only found out when I asked, her mother hasn't been home cooking for two days. I feel both pain and anger in my heart.
My wife didn't come back until early in the morning, and I scolded her with a straight face, "What the hell did you do?" My wife said nonchalantly, "Nothing." My anger grew even stronger and I said, "A woman who stayed up all night knows what she did outside
My wife stared and exclaimed angrily, "I'm going to bed with someone else!" My mind went blank for an instant, and I rushed over and slapped her in the face. She didn't fight back and cried fiercely, "Remember, our relationship is over here
After calming down, I realized that I had made a big mistake. Over the next month or so, I repeatedly apologized to my wife, but she didn't forgive me and started sleeping separately from me. She said, "My heart is already dead, talking too much is of no use
I kept looking for opportunities to please her and taught her many lessons about family unity and daughter growth. In the end, she finally returned to our room, but still didn't let me touch her.
Despite living in the same room and eating in the same pot, our marital relationship is already in name only. One evening, I had a candid conversation with my wife and proposed three agreements: mutual communication; Not interfering with the other party's interests; Don't do anything to apologize to the other party. At the end of the conversation, my wife threw me a sentence: "For the sake of my daughter, let's make do for it first
Slowly, some rumors spread to my ears, saying that she had an extraordinary relationship with one of her superiors. I was skeptical, and when I paid for her phone bill, I asked the telecommunications bureau to print a detailed list. Sure enough, I found many call records with the same number on it. I pretended to ask her casually, but she handled it lightly.
One weekend afternoon, the phone at home suddenly rang, and my wife was answering the phone in the living room. I felt that her voice was not right, so I quietly picked up the extension in the bedroom. It turned out to be her boss's wife calling, and she cursed her wife over the phone for seducing her man.
This phone call has once again made me lose my self-control. The more I thought, the more I breathed, panting heavily as I walked back and forth in the room. My wife stood by and looked at me nervously.
She called me to stop in a gentle tone, but I kept walking and shouted loudly, "Make this house like this, I'm going to kill him!" My wife rushed over and hugged me tightly, shouting my nickname constantly
It's really strange, my wife's few calls quickly calmed me down. That night, I reiterated those three agreements to my wife again and emphasized the third one: not to do anything wrong to the other party. Finally, I said to her, "If you want a divorce, you also need to wait for your daughter to finish college
This time, she fully agreed. Not long after my daughter left college, I bought a computer back. Since then, as a lonely person, I have regarded it as the 'closest person', and I have unreservedly confided in it all my pain.
In order to comply with the agreement, I not only stopped interfering with my wife's hobbies, but also kept myself as clean as a jade, and the two of them were at peace. All expenses are subject to an AA system. When my wife cooks, I clean up; She buys vegetables three times, so do I; At night, she played cards until late at night, and I kept the door open for her.
In order to get along with her and watch TV together, I intentionally asked her some questions, even though I already knew the answers to those questions. Every year for her birthday, I always buy back a few good dishes and cook them myself for her to eat
