Post Date December, 02 2023
Honest husbands can also cheat
In the sexual psychology clinic, foreign company customer service can hardly believe what their husband has done for a period of time. He is an honest and loyal enterprise technical cadre, who had a 7-year high school and college dating experience with Fei Fei before getting married. Everyone believes that they are a couple who grow old together. Who knows, in the fifth year after marriage, the husband had a relationship with a female netizen who was five or six years younger than him. When Fei Fei discovered on his phone that the unmarried woman had repeatedly sent her husband obscene text messages, he resolutely proposed a divorce. The husband wept bitterly, saying that he had no feelings for the woman and had only loved non human beings from beginning to end. He only betrayed once physically, and emotionally, he could swear that he had never betrayed Fei Fei.
Considering that her husband was a first-time offender, she cherished the wrongs of her years of love and still forgave him. But she quickly realized that her husband and the woman were still connected, and even had frequent infidelities, but she was unwilling to divorce Fei Fei. Fei Fei was deeply confused about this. What was wrong with this man, and did he already have an extramarital sexual dependence similar to a drug addiction?
Expert assertion
Some infidelities are a psychological barrier
Sexual psychology experts have found in their consultations with Fei Fei that Fei Fei's husband has a certain sense of responsibility and morality. Prior to this, he had been very specialized in his 7-year love and 5-year marriage career. Experts have determined that his infidelity, as he himself said, is not his original intention and may have some psychological barriers. After further consultation, experts found that the non non non husband has a more introverted personality and excessively pursues perfection, setting unrealistic standards for himself; At the same time, many aspects require too much of themselves, but they often encounter various setbacks in their work, which makes them feel great pain; And when emotions are unsettled, they are unwilling to disturb their partner and alleviate the psychological turmoil through a wild and unrestrained way. Over time, treating infidelity with other loveless women as a way to relieve stress naturally creates psychological barriers.
Professor Ma Xiaonian, chairman of the Professional Committee of Sexual Medicine of the China Sexology Association, pointed out that there are many "cheating men" who have psychological barriers in life. They should receive detailed psychological and psychiatric examinations, and conduct psychological and behavioral treatment when necessary.
Derailment analysis
Seize the embryonic stage of 'ready to move'
Generally speaking, there are three types of men's infidelity: the first is mental infidelity, the second is physical infidelity, and the last is a dual infidelity of mind and body. Psychologists believe that if it's the first and second situations, it can still be forgiven. This man is also within the scope of rescue, and after a period of cold war, the marriage will return to its original love. The last type is no longer considered cheating, but a complete betrayal. Once a man's infidelity reaches the final stage, the family will one day dissolve.
A man's infidelity is the same as "Rome was not built in a day". Men and women who are deeply in love cannot pretend to be in the eyes of others. Only when marriage makes a man feel dull and tired, will his heart be "ready to move". Therefore, experts suggest that wives can completely nip their husbands' "restless" hearts in the bud.
A common situation in life is that many women attribute the reality of their husband's infidelity to "he's eating from the bowl and watching from the pot", "the wild women outside are really shameless", and so on, but they never realize what the relationship between their husband's infidelity and themselves is. If you put yourself in the shoes of yourself and think about your performance over a period of time, whether it's too "artificial", too sloppy, not caring enough for your husband, or making him feel lacking in novelty, and then communicate thoroughly with him, I believe it will bring his heart back to you.
Cut off derailment
There's no need to keep 'wolves coming' all day
In daily life, many women closely monitor their phone call records, text messages, and
MSN chat records, etc. In fact, once discovered by the husband, it is easy to lay a layer of frost on the already fragile emotions between the two. If it doesn't work out, push the man's already wavering heart into the arms of other women.
The expert's suggestion is that you should learn to be a smart wife and not have to be greedy towards him. You should wear a nervous posture of "wolf coming" all day long. You can pay attention to the details of your life and your interactions, and if there is a slight "disturbance" in your life, you can see everything clearly. Of course, you also need to trust and tolerate your husband. In taking good care of his work and life, you should also pay attention to his emotional changes and psychological fluctuations, and use female understanding to resolve his unhappiness, so that he can fully vent and not give outsiders opportunities.
For men, no one is willing to haggardly deal with their wives and have to break ties with women outside. Often, cheating is not something they are willing to do. Generally speaking, men tend to relax their psychological vigilance and face more temptations during critical moments such as promotion and wealth, business trips and socializing, or disappointment and depression. If we can firmly grasp the critical moment of easy infidelity and keep our wives in our hearts, we can also achieve twice the result with half the effort and protect a happy and happy family. As the saying goes, holding onto the pass can keep the city intact.
