Extramarital affairs are common both on TV and in reality. If it happens in someone else's home, people usually treat it as a joke. What should they do if it happens to themselves? Most people's first reaction is to feel angry and then frustrated, some want to save, while others just want to break up.
According to a survey by gender experts, Thailand is the country with the most unfaithful partners in the world, with a man cheating rate of 52%, ranking first in the world, and a woman cheating rate of 59%, second only to the African country of Ghana. In addition, South Korean men have the second highest level of infidelity in the world, with Singapore and Hong Kong men having an average of 16 bed partners in their lifetime. Psychologically, the occurrence of an affair is mostly due to problems in the marital relationship. If you can handle this affair well, it can sometimes promote the growth of your relationship; But if not handled properly, it can only lead to a breakup. Therefore, there are some things to pay attention to when dealing with extramarital affairs.
1. Don't pretend not to know
At the beginning of an affair, people usually don't have too many feelings yet, and then the situation often ends. Once we get along for a long time and our relationship deepens, the difficulty of getting her to leave will increase, and it is very likely that she will become deeply immersed and actively seek a divorce.
2. Don't Divorce Immediately
Perhaps you are angry and unable to accept their betrayal, but you still need to remain calm, try to find the root cause of their affair, and then ask yourself if you still love them? Is it a decision to salvage or give up? It is very important for you to calmly think about your true thoughts, as your stance and attitude when dealing with this matter in the future depend on it.
3. Don't let everyone know
If you still want to salvage this relationship, you should consider it for the other party. People often point fingers at them after they know it, which is not conducive to the repair of the relationship. Even if you divorce with a firm decision, you should try to narrow down the number of people who are informed, because the more people around you interfere with you, the easier it is for you to fall into pain.
4. Don't vent freely
Although very angry, if you allow your emotions to vent in a disorderly manner, and TA looks at you losing control, compared to a gentle and considerate lover, your heart will be more inclined towards the lover, believing that your choice is very correct. Unless you decide to divorce, or if the person has already decided to leave their lover and come back to you and agree to work together to repair the relationship, then you can occasionally give them your bad emotions and hold them accountable for your actions.
5. It's best to have peace talks
It is important to pay attention to the timing and occasion when your partner has an affair. It is best to have two people present alone, without a third party, otherwise some things cannot be explained and may lead to arguments. In addition, don't just blame TA and cry about your pain with a lot of runny nose and tears, which is not beneficial for solving the problem. It's best to think about your ideas and stance in advance, and then express them rationally.
6. Don't be wishful thinking
Marriage is a matter for two people, and unilateral efforts are far from enough. If the other party is determined to leave you, it is best not to continue to make so many unilateral efforts on their own, as it will only make your heart more tormented and hurt your self-esteem even more.
7. Receiving psychological treatment
Whether the final outcome is to continue living together or choose divorce, it always makes people mentally exhausted and distressed. Receiving psychological treatment in a counseling room can help heal the trauma and help them move forward in their future lives.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)